Do you tell your exP what you have bought Dc?

[quirkycutekitch]

It's the first year we've split & I know I'll get all my shopping done before ex. I was thinking of emailing him a list of everything I've bought to prevent doublers.

What does everyone else do in this situation?

Then I suppose I will have to email him everything my parents are getting for him too.

I wouldnt bother - if he duplicates anything it probably is easier as it can stay at his house.

No. I used to give him a few suggestions, he'd send cash and I'd get it. He's bought nothing for ds for the past 2 years, not even a card (ds is 15).

XP and I are quite good friends (now) and so we usually communicate ideas to each other. Generally it's not too much of an issue, if there's a double up, one lives at his house and one lives at mine.

Sometimes we swap stuff, too. She wasn't using her balance bike at his, so it came to live here so she can 'ride' it on our walks.

Obviously it depends on the Arse Factor of your ex. If it would go down like sour milk I wouldn't bother.

Yes we have always communicated in advance with DH's ex. It makes sense to us as just occasionally there'd be something we'd both thought of. We are all struggling financially so we can't afford to risk duplicates etc

I would think of your dc - are they likely to feel upset or uncomfortable if they receive the same gift from you both? If yes, then send the email.

It's a good idea if you get on ok, but it backfired for dh, as she then just went out and bought the bigger, better versions of everything we had.

Yes I have told ex what I've already got and what else I'm planning on getting but we generally get on quite well and spend a fair amount of time together with dd. I've also given him a few suggestions of what she would like because he always leaves it until last minute to shop. We've also decided to go halves on a wooden kitchen for her birthday in February and I'm hoping we can get one in the January sale

Do yours split the cost of the gifts that you give to your DC, or do they leave you to pay for everything but buy one from just them?

No dss has a room here with all his things in it the same as he does at his mums the only thing we may discuss is which xbox games were getting as they go between the two houses.

No, he keeps all the stuff his dad buys at his dads house and the stuff I buy at my house. Then he has stuff to do everywhere.

Lady - we will just buy our own gifts for DS separately.

I just think it's a waist of money to double up.

I haven't told exh what getting ds2 but ds1 wants new laptop so have text him about going halves but no reply. So will wait and broach later this month or beginning of next. This is our first year split to and for their birthdays we didn't commnicate except for him asking to take ds1 on my day to a driving experience which of course I said yes to.
I am hoping to have dc xmas eve to do the stockings as I always organised, bought and wrapped them in past.

I'm hoping he'll agree to me having DS Christmas Eve too. I also did the stocking etc. when we were together I would by the presents from Santa & then on the last few weeks exp would decide he wanted to buy presents from him. So he would tell him - I bought you this. Used to wind me up

That was horrible of him. i hope you get Christmas eve as you want it

It's one of the many things that make me better off without him! Hope you get Xmas eve too!