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Third year running I've posted: what do I get DP?!!

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eggwhitesandsugar · 14/12/2013 11:16

This happens every year. Our fifth Christmas together. The first two I was completely skint and got what I considered to be normal presents (a book, something jokey from Hawkins Bazaar etc.). He didn't use any of it but was polite.

He has a very sweet tooth and likes alcohol. However my poor parents have also got him whiskey and I am making this so that's enough alcohol. His stocking is also almost entirely chocolate. He has always had plenty of money so just buys whatever he wants, when he wants it and buys the best that he can - so no upgrades possible (or upgrades I could afford).

Last year I got him remote controlled helicopters, which he loves. I also (at his request) bought him some very nice gloves, which he hasn't worn. He is into technology and business management and food.

I have previously helped him choose coats, which he likes, so I do have an eye for things that suit him but I have no idea where to buy nice men's clothes that aren't too old fashioned or smart.

It is on the verge of driving me to tears as he always buys me expensive, sometimes sweet presents and I can't reciprocate - mostly because I don't have these things in the first place whereas he does, e.g. an iPod. He has bought me some clangers, like a smartphone (I have no need for one, can't afford to pay for an expensive contract so I basically just call and text with it) and this year was going to get me an iPad (I have a laptop and a kindle, I don't need one and wouldn't use it, he just thinks everyone 'should' have one).

Rant over. Does anyone have any ideas where I can get nice men's clothing for a 42 year old? He is very jeans and jumper and t-shirt -y and can't tie his own ties so nothing formal please. I wear his cufflinks more than he does. He doesn't need: shoes, coats, scarves, hats, gloves. Possibly some Christmas pajamas or a Christmas jumper? I can spend about £40.

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EdithWeston · 14/12/2013 11:43

You could try uniqlo or Woolovers for jumpers (not particularly Christmassy, though).

EdithWeston · 14/12/2013 11:46

I've not used this site but it seems to bring together Christmas jumpers from a load of retailers, so browsing might give you inspiration?

eggwhitesandsugar · 14/12/2013 11:50

Thank you :)

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SirChenjin · 14/12/2013 11:53

How about an 'experience' type thing - do you have any chocolatiers near you who run chocolate making/tasting sessions, or something along that line?

Charles Tyrwhitt has a good sale on at the moment - nice casual stuff (although maybe a bit formal, hard to say as I don't know him obv!) - link here

wonderingsoul · 14/12/2013 11:57

what about vouchers ior plannibg a day for the two of you..

cinema, food and bnb?

eggwhitesandsugar · 14/12/2013 12:02

Cinema is such a good idea, thank you :) I also like the stuff on the Charles Tyrwhitt site.

I made him for one anniversary a 'date jar' and he hasn't really used it. Also for our anniversary (November) I took him to the Hotel Chocolat restaurant so I'd like to move away from chocolate.

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nipersvest · 14/12/2013 12:02

i never know what to get dh, this year have gone for an electric toothbrush, as he travels a lot with work so could do with one of his own, and a dolce gusto coffee machine as he's the only one in the house who drinks coffee. ones for his birthday though, which is on christmas eve.

Ragwort · 14/12/2013 12:04

Do you live together? I think you need a serious chat about gifts and the level of spending - it seems odd that he would consider buying you an expensive phone when you clearly can't afford to use it,or an ipad 'because everyone has one' Hmm. Does he know what you earn?

eggwhitesandsugar · 14/12/2013 12:29

Thanks nipers he already has an electric toothbrush but I could get him some Christmas coffee - thanks for the idea :)

Ragwort I know you mean well but if I wanted relationship advice I would have posted on that board. I was just having a rant. Yes we live together, yes he knows what I earn. We just come from different backgrounds so have different attitudes to money.

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SirChenjin · 14/12/2013 13:15

Cinema is a good idea Smile. I find buying for DH really hard - and that's after 20 years! Otoh, he's presented with my list round about June Blush

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