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I effing hate Christmas, how do I survive?

21 replies

Witco · 12/11/2013 21:03

That's about it really. As a child I always found Christmas a huge disappointment so I have rejected it. I hate it with a passion so how the hell will I get through the next 6 weeks?

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fuzzpig · 12/11/2013 21:07

I hated Xmas as a child too. Miserable parents made it miserable for me.

It depends on your circumstances really - what family do you have, in particular do you have DCs?

jojane · 12/11/2013 21:14

Can you not focus on what you want Christmas to be like and try and make it so?

attheendoftheday · 12/11/2013 21:15

You have hated previous Christmases, you don't know you'll hate this one yet (stay positive).

Is there something you specifically hate? Can you just not do that bit? No need to visit family, cook a turkey etc if you don't want.

fuzzpig · 12/11/2013 21:17

I should think if you tell us what your set up is we can make suggestions. I'm sure you don't want to hate it forever IYSWIM? It's not hopeless, I've gone from hating Xmas to genuinely loving it

attheendoftheday · 12/11/2013 21:20

I should have said, christmas was shit when I was a kid too. But the joy of being a grown up is I can do what the hell I like, so I love it now.

Try a different sort of christmas. The year I spent with a flatmate getting wildly drunk in our dive of a student flat and eating curry was great (had been dumped at the last minute by the ex I was meant to be spending the day with). I once read about someone spending christmas alone in a tent reading books, which I think I'd like too.

If you have dc you might not be totally free to do as you please, but you can deal with the bits that will make them happy with minimal fuss, then do something for yourself.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 12/11/2013 21:23

I didn't hate it, but I was meh about it till a couple of years ago, thought it was just for kids, hated the crowds, constant Christmas everywhere from about September etc. I had a bit of a turning point one Christmas Eve when I was getting irritated with all the Merry christmas messages on Fb and nearly wrote something very surly on there. Luckily I stopped myself, I realised that I would come across as very rude, my friends didn't deserve that and that my irritation may well have meant that my DCs were not getting the Christmas they deserve. So, the next year I decided to just go for it and embrace it wholeheartedly, doing lots of extra bits and bobs. Now I love it.

Witco · 12/11/2013 21:25

I have 2 DCs (21 and 12), a DH and family living locally. It's not so much Christmas per se, more the awful ostentatiousness and the build up. It's such a waste of money. I like spending time with my immediate family but the rest is fake and a waste of money that we don't have. Rant over - wake me up in the new year!

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NotALondoner · 12/11/2013 21:51

Have you looked at the simple christmas thread?

Witco · 12/11/2013 22:09

Hi Nota, I just saw that and there are lots of good suggestions on there. The problem is that it only appeals to me, the rest of the family are in a different camp and view me as a disappointment!

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NotALondoner · 12/11/2013 23:42

Oh, I love being a disappointment to people. If I get the slightest whiff that they may be feeling like that, I increase/decrease my activities purely to increase their disappointment. It gives me a warm fuzzy feeling inside.

Last year our Christmas dinner was baked potato. Because we all (me and the kids) like baked potato. But because it was Christmas I cut up some salad too.

sonlypuppyfat · 12/11/2013 23:50

Living the dream NotALondoner living the dream.

Branleuse · 12/11/2013 23:56

I fucking hate it too.

Kids seem to like it, and im a million times less stressed about it this year which i put down to getting rid of my TV, therefore not bombarded with christmas shit constantly

TheYamiOfYawn · 13/11/2013 13:11

Where is the simple christmas thread? I could do with a bit of simplicity.

girlywhirly · 13/11/2013 13:38

Look at discussions of the day box on the RHS near the top of the page.

paperlantern · 13/11/2013 16:16

I hope you dont mind me saying think perhaps if you hate Christmas because of the over-doness of it but that your attitude is a disappointment to your family then it feels to me like you've got it back to front.

The enjoyment of Christmas for me is seeing people you love having fun.

Just ignore the over the topness and watch your lot having fun. "your alright I'm enjoying just watching you"

some years I feel very meh about Christmas particularly if there's lots of not so good stuff also going on. but this tactic has always helped me love it on the day

Verycarefullythinking · 13/11/2013 16:25

I usually look forward to christmas but after finally getting out of an EA relationship I'm dreading it. I've felt mostly good and free without DS' dad around but DS (6) him, and while I plan to make it as easy as possible for him to call in on the big day, I know DS will really really miss his Dad and I will feel horribly guilty.

The thought of him opening his presents with only me is really hard- I'm going to need a very brave face on Christmas Day.

We are going to family for Christmas Lunch, but again I know DS will wish his Dad was there.

Its the hardest thing so far about the split- the guilt about messing up DS's family christmas- I really wish we could cancel it.

hyenafunk · 13/11/2013 18:29

I hated Christmas when I was childless and had really fucking naff Christmases sat in front of the TV eating on my lap with my family not saying a word to each other, not even a cracker in sight. It depressed me to no end. The best part, no the only good part, was the money I was given and then wasting it on New Years with mates Grin.

But I must admit I was only so much of a Scrooge because my Christmases were so shit and I was so jealous of the Christmases I was seeing in the movies and such. Never had any of that spirit, never even had a mince pie fgs.

As soon as I had DC I was ADAMANT to get into the spirit of things and have them have amazing Christmases. Now I'm the crazy lady buzzing around in a Christmas cardigan baking mince pies and Christmas shaped cookies Grin. It's tough but just think of what you've always wanted Christmas to be and put it into action. It's the little things really, like watching carol singing or baking mince pies or wearing a corny xmas jumper that help you feel the spirit.

I think we often lose the who point of Christmas which is quite simply to have fun with those we love.

FabulouslyFierce · 18/11/2013 12:10

I just thought I'd put my sixpence worth in. I hate Christmas in the way it is over commercialised, the enforced joviality, the visiting people you don't like and will never see during the year, the stupid cards that no one gives a s**t about. As a vegan, atheist who is estranged from most of my family and hardly see the others the typical Christmas portrayed in the ads and those awful Christmas films, I can't relate to. So in the run up to Christmas I always start to feel sad, bitter and angry.

BUT .... I do have a 10 yo DS who loves Christmas, so together with my equally Grinch-like DH, I have come to have our own type of Christmas that suits our Grinchyness but also keeps DS happy. The Christmas tree (bright red and artificial) goes up on the 20th and comes down on New Years Eve. Tinsel is banned as I find it too disturbing! I try and keep the rest of the decorations to a minimum, simple and natural materials like glass, wood, paper, fabric - and stuff that me and DS have made, like salt dough shapes.

We do all the things associated with the holiday season, but keep it as non-cliche, non-commercialised as possible. I try to see it as a week in the winter when we can all be cosy at home, we don't have to go anywhere, no-one is likely to pop round unexpectedly so we can spend the whole day in our pyjamas or onsies watching DVD's, playing games, eating our favourite foods, etc. Now that DS is older we have said we will start having Christmas abroad too.

freakinundercover · 18/11/2013 13:42

Hmm. I went through several years of not being bothered by xmas but I got my excitement back after having children.

For me the magic is in choosing presents I know the recipient will love- I refuse to buy for anyone I don't know well or who I struggle with ideas for. I won't buy gift sets or tokenistic crap, or stuff for the sake of it. But have to rein myself in from spoiling my children, parents etc too much.

I love having a few days of just being dedicated to family, you don't really get that at any other time of year.

I love having a few days of eating and drinking. I'm not a glutton and I don't get wasted but Christmas is a time for more treaty food for me, lots of cheese, dark chocolate, florentines, baileys, champagne...

I think you need to see Christmas as a time to indulge and spoil yourself and make it your own perfect day.

Branleuse · 09/12/2013 10:32

its just getting worse. I wish I actually liked it, but the last two years ive had a breakdown in january. The whole season, i just find too much. I cant bear it.

alicetrefusis · 16/12/2013 19:11

I can't bear it either. For all the reasons above. I effing hate it.

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