Do your teenage children get you a present for Christmas?

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Just that really! Interested in hearing what happens in other families. We used to do the buying/choosing with/for them for eachother, but they're a bit old for that now. What happens in your family?

Yes, last year they went out together Christmas shopping and got me and DH's presents.

This year I think they've consulted via text messages as they don't live under the same roof any more.

Dd (13) does. We give her some money to help out and this year she supplemented it with her own cash (and some huffing about the amount we had given her ) she just gets let loose in a shopping centre and goes for it.

Of course.
Ds started buying his own gifts when he was about 16. I had always helped him. The children always buy for each other and we (dh and I ) helped them chose for each other. I don't want my son to be on here one day the subject of an 'aibu to think my dh could have remembered/made an effort re my birthday/Christmas gift"

He came back from uni yesterday with two presents sorted (dh and DD) and is collecting DS2s tomorrow. He won't tell me about mine but it's under control apparently.

He bought DD a simple camcorder thing suitable for a ten year old. Ds2 he is getting some climbing shoes as ds2 likes climbing and is quite good at it. I think he is getting DH some sports sunglasses.

Both my dcs (dd15 and ds17) have been on the internet ordering. They have both had their own bank cards since they were 13 so can do that.
They both asked me for dh for ideas and have gone off to bought the stuff themselves. I know last year DS got his gf to help chose my present.

I got my mum cinema tickets when I was younger with my pocket money from my grandparents...tbh it was so I could go too lol but was nice to get a mummy daughter date. When I was 16 I started working so started getting her proper gifts.

I'm 22 now, unemployed and still living with my mummy. I paid for a meal out for Xmas with her best friend (£25), the new steps CD and pink CD.

I know I'm not a teenager after all I'm engaged and ttc but I tend to forget and I still feel about 18 lol.

Yes - a small gift.
Last year DD - then 15 gave me smellies and DS 12 gave me gloves.

Like bruffin, really.

Yes, even my DD who is 7 buys things from her own money. Small things, as she doesn't have much money - nail file for her granny, I think DH is getting an ice cube tray with silicone base so the ice doesn't end up all over the floor for his endless G&T. Last year he got a giant bag of peanuts which he loved. They love giving something they have bought and it's good when they realise how much things cost!

Yes dd 13yrs bought presents for all the family from her own amazon account.

Yes, absolutely. They were given a bit of a 'top-up' by DH until they had a part time job at sixteen, when they took over responsibility.

We have usually live a bit out in the sticks so they often relied on DH for a trip to the shops though.

Yes, they always have tried to save up for us. Mine tend to put together for things for DH and I, but they normally ask/ tell the other one for ideas or so there's no overlapping, if that makes sense.

Thanks all. I was always brought up to do similar and enjoyed choosing stuff for my mum and dad.

My DH as a 17 y/o son and we have always made the effort to involve him in choosing presents for birthdays/christmas. The lack of interest over the last couple of years has basically made me give up though. On the last occasion (DH's birthday) I'd made the effort to choose something with DSS, had paid for it and wrapped it and even made sure I'd left it in his room so he could bring it down to DH. I had to ask him 4 or 5 times to bring it down though and then DH ended up finding it where I'd left it when he'd gone up to ask DSS something.

That was last year and I told DSS he needed to sort it out himself in future, helping him with ideas and making sure he had enough money, but every big occasion has since gone completely unmarked. Nothing for DH's birthday, nothing for xmas, fathers day. Not even a card or phone call.

Just wanted to hear what happended in other families as I really thought it was normal for teenagers, especially this age, to be making an effort. Nice to hear that is normally the case, even if not in our house!

Would it help, do you think, to say to 17 yo DSS, 'Look don't necessarily bother with birthdays and father's day, but you WILL make an effort for Christmas'?

Does he enjoy receiving presents for himself or is is not at all fussed?

He does like receiving presents yes.

Don't know if DH would say that to him, although he does drop pretty big hints! I think DSS still very much sees himself as a child whose role it is to receive rather than to give

I always take all our (14,12,10,7) to the car boot and the older ones have an hour to shop for the family whilst I help the youngest. That way their pocket money goes further and they usually find great stuff, like books, CDs and so on. Any tat is not a big waste, either.

I also buy second hand stuff for them and wrap it up as though the dog bought it!

Personally I think Christmas is easier to insist on because everyone is doing it and presents can all go under the tree together.

Your DSS is being pretty crap, yes, but it won't last forever.