Would you be offended if I bought your DS a coat?

[WitchOfEndor]

Background is DF is a bit strapped for cash, her DS has a coat she bought from eBay but it is a size too big and swamps him. her DS doesn't really play with toys so I was scratching my head for present ideas anyway. If it was you, would you be offended if I bought your DS a coat? (I would put the gift receipt in just in case)

Ask her if she wants you to buy him a coat.

Gosh, a lot more replies! My friends DS is 2.5 and doesn't really play with things so I was struggling to think of something to buy him anyway. We do usually buy for each others DSs. And she has said she is popping round with a pressie for DS this week which made me think harder about what to get for her DS. The coat I've seen is a lovely orange one from M&S which goes with his colouring and the colours DF normally puts him in. I'm also including some chunky chalks, crayons and washable pens so it seems more presenty for him. I am a bit worried still that she will take offence but I can honestly say that I couldn't really think of anything else to buy ( no point buying toys he won't play with just for the sake of it) and when I saw the coat it looked so nice I couldn't resist. I'll include a gift receipt and hope she is cool with it. Thanks everyone for your opinions.

< hope she doesn't see this thread because it will totally out me!>

Aargh, just texted her to ask, fingers crossed!

Sorry, but the friend has just bought her child a coat. Probably bought it too big so it would last longer. I think buying another one might make her feel that her poverty had been noticed and that, in a way, her ability to look after her child was being criticised.

If you are really good friends, then it may be different - you could discuss the idea with her honestly first.

I wouldn't be offended, but agree with others that she may have chosen it intentionally. Also on principle I choose not to buy my dc new clothes when it comes to things that they'll only wear for a few months, and would return it for store credit it we got given a coat... You can get coats on eBay in excellent condition for ridiculously little by the way.

I definitely wouldn't be offended. In fact an old friend bought my dd a coat for Christmas when she was about 4 or 5 - it was amazingly pink and sparkly & my dd loved it! I didn't think anything of it except that she had seen it, thought it was cool, and that she was enjoying the opportunity to buy something girly (she has two boys). I'd much rather have a present that my dd would use than a toy that she doesn't want.

Good news, she has replied to say a coat would be lovely so I can relax and pick it up this weekend!

It's a nice thought. I'm glad you checked with her first, though.

One of my DSs wears a coat that swamps him. It keeps his hands warm because he won't keep gloves on!

YAY