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Bit disappointed :( <trivial>

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fuzzpig · 01/12/2012 21:25

My parents are getting divorced and are in the process of moving into separate flats, and they don't want their old Xmas tree. They bought it for my 2nd Xmas in 1987 and it's a brilliant, high quality 6ft tree. They brought it up today after digging it out of the attic, so I could check it, as they haven't used it since I moved out in 2006. (I've had most of the special decorations since then)

I know I am being really lame, as it's just a tree, but it was the only thing I loved about Xmas, in an otherwise shit childhood where Xmas was pointless, miserable and toxic. I was allowed to build (it's a bit like a 3D jigsaw puzzle!) and decorate it every year as my parents hated doing it. It was mine and the one part of the season that nobody could ruin. When I was decorating it, I could pretend for a couple of hours that I was having a lovely happy time like families on TV do.

I was so excited to be getting it this year, as we've never been able to afford a decent tree since moving out... but we built it and there's loads missing, it's unusable :(

Mum is going to have a look to double check if there's any more, though it's very unlikely as they've virtually finished clearing out now. And she has very kindly offered to buy us a new tree as our Xmas present, which will be great as we can get a really good one that might last the next 20+ years. I KNOW I am being silly, and there are much bigger things to be upset about. Still, I will be sad to be taking it to the tip.

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wednesdaygirl · 01/12/2012 21:27

New chapter

mellowcat · 01/12/2012 21:28

Sorry to hear that, you couldn't kind of put the bare bits at the back and still have it looking nice at the front or use some of the bits to make a garland or other decorations?

edam · 01/12/2012 21:28

Aw, I don't think you are being silly at all. The tree is a little bit of safety and happiness from your childhood and of course you are sad to discover it's broken.

But you can change your focus away from sad old tree to happy new tree that will be the start of a new tradition for you and dh/dp.

debka · 01/12/2012 21:30

That's a sad story :(

What an unhappy childhood you had. Sounds like it would have been better if your parents had bitten the bullet and divorced years ago.

Leave the tree behind you. xx

diddiehunter · 01/12/2012 21:31

aww bless you. its not stupid if u feel strongly about it! but you could look at it a different way with your new tree- u can now start creating new,positive memories now with this a new tree! instead of just concentrating on the tree being one piece of positivity,think of the new one as part of a more positive package!Grin

diddiehunter · 01/12/2012 21:33

sorry,still trying to get used to mn and the new app!

i agree with edam!

bedmonster · 01/12/2012 21:33

It's not silly, it's something that holds massive sentimental value for you. But if she can't find the bits (and I hope that she can) then she will buy you a new tree and you will have it for the next few decades and have lots of lovely new memories with it.

fuzzpig · 01/12/2012 21:44

Aww thanks everyone. I was a bit scared of posting this and being told to get a grip, first world problem etc! Blush

New chapter... yes, I like that. :) It really will be great to have a lovely new one, which will still have all my favourite decorations anyway. We also get the DCs a new decoration of their own each year (nicked that from MN :o)

DH did offer to try and butcher adapt the tree, but it isn't really possible without it looking really weird (the top is missing for a start) - think DH was a bit put out I said no! However I might try and save some of the leafy bits, I have an empty wreath thing (I think that's what it is anyway? Like a circular woven twig thing?) so maybe I could try and get the leaves in there.

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fuzzpig · 08/12/2012 18:19

Update!

Mum found the rest of the tree :o

Will definitely use it this year - if I then decide it's not such a good idea then we will get a new tree in the sales after Xmas.

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starsandunicorns · 08/12/2012 18:23

:) have a fab christmas fuzzpig

Ragwort · 08/12/2012 18:25

Lovely news, I am sentimental about things like that and can really appreciate that you want to 'hang on' to the good memories as it must be very tough for you that your parents are divorcing and moving into their own homes.

I've just put up all our decorations and shed a few tears at the memories, hand made decorations from one of our neices who sadly died, silly little decs. that my son made at pre-school (he's 11 now Grin), things that have been made over the years by friends, some of whom we have lost touch with but they all bring back happy thoughts. (Whilst playing my 80s Christmas CD that I get out every year !) Hope you & your family have a wonderful Christmas. Xmas Smile

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