Back story is that db lives abroad, dm sent him £300, on a debit card, for him, wife and two gc's christmas presents, he sent her a christmas card, did not say thankyou for the money, but told her he spent it all on stuff for his house, but would give kids 'something from granma', he is seriously well-off, I feel he could have sent something, even a token bouquet would have made dm's Christmas, she said 'oh he's probably been too busy, he has a very demanding job' , but I know she's hurt, I think he could have arranged to send flowers when he was happily spending the money she sent.
Sorry, long rant. Basically dm's hurt, so I feel sorry for her, I'm appalled by his care-less-ness, should I tell him