Disappointing but not disgusting presents....

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What do you do?
I opened a set of jewellery from DH. It's very inoffensive but it's just not "me" and I know I won't wear it-what on earth do I do?

It's not massively expensive-about £100, so not exactly cheap either so I don't want to leave it in the box unworn.

What makes it worse is exactly the same happened about 5 years ago, at which point I said errrm it's not me can I exchange it. I felt a bit crappy about it but at least I wear the jewellery I changed it for.

I feel such an ungrateful cow, but I also feel a bit crap that this jewellery is what he thinks is "me"

Can you take it back and pick something you would enjoy wearing?

Just say you think it's too this or that for you as an excuse.

Ps: you're not ungrateful at all!

Not ungrateful, but maybe next year you need to give DH better clues as to what you'd like

DP has stopped trying to buy me jewellery as he's just realized I don't wear any

I'm going to have to tell him, but just not today. This is a small part of sooooo many issues

I get you.

Not in the same league but I got a mahoosive box of Thorntons.

But actually I love ordinary chocolate. Box of Celebrations, Roses, Dairy Milk, Chocolate Orange etc etc would have been much yummier

There's also the box of clinique skincare products... I have severe eczema on my face and in the 18 years we've been together I've only ever used prescription creams -and he knows why!
I know he's tried but I thought after 18 years he might have known me a bit better

You are not ungrateful. Thankfully my DH has learned from this in the past and I got a card this year with a choice of things in it to buy from today onwards. Yes, I don't have a gift to open but he's given it some thought plus I can usually chose 2 on the list because the sales have started!

Good idea from your DG greggs

So you have a 'wish list' that you choose from and he'll buy what you want.

Might steal idea for next year...

I asked dh to get me a digital radio because I want to listen to the radio more and also because he and the boys tend to hog the living room to watch rubbish American TV.

He misunderstood and bought a (very nice) new music centre for the front room. It also has a docking station for an iPod.

I don't even have an iPod (he does) and i don't share music tastes much with the rest of the family. So I can only enjoy my new present by evicting the rest of the family from the front room, but he can use it loads (works from home). We only have one tv, and I don't really want to get another.

And I still can't listen to the radio whilst they're watching tv.

I sound like such a grump, don't I?

no roisin you don't sound like a grump! I'd be a bit hacked off too if that had happened to me

He is lovely and normally very thoughtful and considerate; I think it was a genuine mistake/misunderstanding. He realises now too, just not sure what best to do about it now as I don't really want to spend more money just now ...

anyone have a pointer to the gift swap thread? I think there are a lot of us feeling a bit flat about our recent acquisitions...

I asked DH for a ruffle type scarf. I left a page open on about 3 websites of the type of thing I wanted. All cream, pale grey ivory sort of colours. DH has bought me an orange one. I have a green coat. I know I will have to change it but feeling bad about asking for the receipt.

He also bought me a necklace. It is nice but rather too sparkly for me. Also nothing like the ones I showed him that I liked. They also came with a pair of earrings. I don't have my ears pierced.

I have a full-length, thick-knit Billabong cardigan. It's very warm but completely not my kind of thing.

The worst thing is, I was with DH when he bought it - he saw it and made me try it on under protest. I tried the tactful "Oh, it's quite bulky isn't it?" "I don't a clue what you would wear with something like that." "Not sure about the buttons.."

All fell on deaf ears because it was obviously something he wanted to buy me and it's such a waste because it will just sit in the wardrobe tbh. It was expensive too. Next time I will make flash cards.

Luckily he listened to something I said because I loved my other presents and the cardigan itself isn't hideous, it's just not something I would wear. I think it goes back to when we first met years ago when I lived in surfy clothes and flipflops but I'm a grown woman now with two dc. Maybe he is trying to recapture something...