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Mum at school I am acquainted with gave me and DS each a gift!

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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 16/12/2011 16:57

I am not sure how to handle this (ie, do I reciprocate) because we are on friendly terms, but are not big buddies.

DS went to her son's party earlier this year and she has invited DS around a couple of times but he is not keen to go. I will probably invite her DS around to ours instead. Whenever I see her we talk about our children but not much else. Other than having children in the same class, we do not have much in common (I am an old wino, and she is young and lovely and definitely not one to quaff a few too many glasses!)

It was so very kind and absolutely unexpected to receive gifts from her and I think she is just a genuinely kind and good hearted person. So, do I reciprocate? Will it seem last minute if I do? Does it matter if it seems last minute? Because it will definitely be an after thought if I get her and her son a gift each.

I am genuinely touched, but also I have no idea what to do other than thank her profusely (which embarrassed her terribly!). Do you think I should also buy her presents?? It is unlikely that she celebrates Christmas because she is of another faith.

Help!

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GypsyMoth · 16/12/2011 16:59

What did she buy you both?

Bonsoir · 16/12/2011 17:01

I would take it as a sign that she wants to take your acquaintance to another level and become friends! And, yes, buy her a little gift in return!

potoftea · 16/12/2011 17:02

I'd actually just take the presents in the lovely spirit of friendship that they were given. If you buy a last minute gift now it'll be obvious it's just a pay-back and take the good out of her's a bit.

She gave because she wanted to, accept it as such. And maybe do something nice in the new year like invite them both over for lunch.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 16/12/2011 17:02

The presents were not wrapped - a Christmassy candle, some smelly goodies for me and a board game for DS.

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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 16/12/2011 17:03

Oh dear: one vote so far for Yes buy a gift and one vote for No!

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Theas18 · 16/12/2011 17:06

Very sweet. If I felt the gift thing was actually a bit OTT I'd probably reciprocate with some biscuits I'd made with my DS.

You know what, it humbles me terribly to get Xmas gifts from people of other faiths.

One year I even was given a tin of chopped ham in all sincerity by and elderly Jehovah's witness lady with the words "we don't celebrate Christmas or give presents but I know you do, so this isn't a Christmas present- it's just a little treat for the kiddies".

Awwww Sniff! and a little Shock too!

LinusVanPelt · 16/12/2011 17:07

Can DS make her a nice thank-you card? And you could ask her if you can buy her a coffee sometime (suggest a time) to thank her for her thoughtfulness?

I agree that it sounds like she wants to be friends. And if she's as lovely as she sounds, why not? You don't have to have much in common.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 16/12/2011 17:12

Part of me does think that if I suddenly buy her something now, it will look tacky!

I do like the idea of having her and her children over sometime.

Yes, Theas18, I agree. I was SO surprised that despite her not "doing" Christmas and despite us only be chatty school gate friends, she went out of her way to get me and DS something. Warm and fuzzy feelings all round Xmas Smile.

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PeanutsRoastingOnAnOpenFire · 16/12/2011 17:55

I would wait until a religious festival Came up for her and buy them a small gift but agree she sounds like she'd like to be friends, invite her for coffee?
What a nice thing Xmas Grin

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