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4yo dd really really wants a chrimbo present that I really really don't want to get

77 replies

ladybaabaa · 02/12/2011 11:38

It's a fur real friends thing, here.

So £45 (!) plus it looks rubbish. She has asked for it every single day for about the last 3 weeks and even says "I can't wait until Father Christmas brings me Cookie" with a big smile.

DH thinks we should just get it for her but I would REALLY rather get her some Sylvanian familes stuff or something else, but she doesn't seem very interested.

Should I just buy it or risk tears on Christmas morning, advice very much appreciated!!

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Floggingmolly · 02/12/2011 19:12

Jesus MissWooWoo. that cat is freaky!
Yes, get it for her, if you can't have your hearts desire at Christmas, when can you? We got Biscuit and Butterscotch the bloody pony (different times) and yes, they do lose interest quite quickly but the look on their faces on Christmas morning is so worth it.

I personally would choose Sylvanians over anything, but it's not about you, is it? Smile

NoVeggiesBeforeSkeggies · 02/12/2011 19:13

I say get it too.

DS is 4 and has his heart set on a Gross Science thing.
It's far too old and messy for him, but he'll think Santa has forgotten him, or doesn't like him if it isn't under the tree Christmas morning!

If you do, hope your DD loves it Smile

FlamingoBingo · 02/12/2011 19:15

I'm actually quite shocked at all the 'get it' responses Shock

Kids don't need heaps of expensive presents. Just say no! It's not difficult.

Mine all want rollerboots but there's no way we're investing in them because I know they won't get used for very long at all, if at all once they've got frustrated with how difficult they are...and then they'll grow out of them.

There's plenty of other things they want, so we've just warned them that rollerboots are off the menu.

And what's the thing about thinking Santa won't like her! Confused It's from her parents, isn't it? Not Santa!

and do we really want our kids growing up thinking they can have whatever they want just because it's Christmas? Hmm

helpmabob · 02/12/2011 19:18

I took my dd to Hamleys when she was three and told her to pick a toy. She picked the ugliest looking thing in the whole store and was adamant. I really didn't want to buy it. 7 years later and it is still her most loved, most precious toy and to think I tried to persuade her to get some arty stuff instead. So buy it for your dd, sometimes they really know what they want.

LydiaWickham · 02/12/2011 19:22

I wanted baby skates. I sort of knew my mum wasn't really listening and just kept saying "I'm sure Father Christmas will get you a dolly", but it was ok, because I'd explained to Father Christmas I wanted Baby Skates, not just any dolly. And I'd been good. I liked the doll I got for Christmas, but it wasn't Baby Skates. I didn't tell my parents, but I'd stopped believing in Father Christmas then because while I'd made it clear to him, I knew my mum had to have been the one who'd made the decision and she'd not listened. (It was our old house, we moved when I was 6 in the spring so oldest I could have been was 5)

Moral of the story, if you can afford it, buy the thing they want, even if it's not the thing you want them to have.

Ragwort · 02/12/2011 19:22

Totally agree with you Flamingo Xmas Grin - but there aren't many like us on this thread.

FlamingoBingo · 02/12/2011 19:24

No, Lydia, the moral of the story is 'don't make up lies about Father Christmas that you can't afford/aren't happy to keep'! Hmm

TooManyBlossoms · 02/12/2011 19:40

Flamingo Bah bloody humbug! She's 4. Of course presents are from Santa, not parents!

OP if you can afford it, get it for her. Jeez.

FlamingoBingo · 02/12/2011 20:04

Eh? Stocking presents are from Santa, main presents are from real life people Confused

Don't these kids feel a bit sad that their parents buy presents for other family members but not for them?

Floggingmolly · 02/12/2011 20:08

Well Santa gets most of the credit in our house, I'm afraid - it's just tradition in our family, but I didn't think it was that unusual?

BoysBoysBoysAndMe · 02/12/2011 20:09

Get it

JarethTheGoblinKing · 02/12/2011 20:11

It could be worse. She could have asked for this one

belgo · 02/12/2011 20:11

Get her a smaller, cheaper version. If I got all of my children everything that they 'really, really wanted' we would be bankrupt.

Bluestocking · 02/12/2011 20:13

Father Christmas brings a stocking full of fun tat. Real people give the big presents. Why would you let a figment take all the credit for the good stuff?

MudAndGlitter · 02/12/2011 20:13

Get it!!! I had to get DSD milky the bunny. All she wants is that and real snow Hmm

jkklpu · 02/12/2011 20:13

@Flamingo @ragwort - totally with you on this one
Quite shocked by everyone saying "buy it", especially given the price. What will it be next birthday, next Christmas if she always gets whatever she asks for, whatever the cost/quality/longevity?

lisad123 · 02/12/2011 20:15

My dd1 has an obsession with fur real pets! Blush she has about 40! Confused
I will say we get most from second hand shop or carboots. They take up alot of room but she loves them and when she finds one at a bootie or second hand shop she is so excited.
We do find most look almost brand new when we get them which just shows how little they are played with Sad

FlamingoBingo · 02/12/2011 22:01

blossoms not bah humbug at all! Just not materialistic and unwilling to bring my kids up to be materialistic either. I want them to understand the value of money and the point of gift-giving, and certainly not to believe that ridiculously expensive presents appear magically from a mythical person!

yellowflowers · 02/12/2011 23:42

Buy it. If she's wanted it for a while then she'll be gutted if not.

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sunnyday123 · 03/12/2011 07:46

i think hey sell his in B&Ms for £30? £45 on amazon with free delivery?

i too would get it but try as hard as possible to get it cheaper! Is it on the boots 3 for 2?

PontyMython · 03/12/2011 10:38

I think get it - thankfully the only thing my DD wanted was cheaper, but I've decided now she is 4 I must leave 'buying room' for something she wants, so even if I still get her 'mum approved' toys she still gets what she wants too. I have now learnt that although it's good to do most of the shopping early, I need to save some budget for nearer the time as DCs change so much especially with school/peer pressure. Thankfully DS can't talk enough to demand anything yet :o

I don't see the harm in getting them the one thing they are desperate for as long it's not wildy inappropriate for their age, or massively expensive.

LolaLadybird · 03/12/2011 11:59

If you were going to spend that amount anyway (and I guess you are as Sylvanians aren't cheap either) I would say get it. My SIL has bought one for her daughter, says she's sure it will be a one-hit wonder but she has her heart set on it. I think that's part of Christmas as a child, finding the one thing you absolutely longed for under the tree.

Molly - FC gets all the credit in our house too. Was always the same when me and my DB were small but I never questionned why our parents never bought us present {gullible}.

LtEveDallas · 03/12/2011 12:14

I'm quite happy for Father Christmas to get the credit. Who on earth needs to get credit for buying stuff? Different maybe if you have lovingly hand crafted a present and stuck it all together with your blood, sweat and tears...

"ooh ooh look at me, I'm the best mummy in the world. I bought this so you have to love me more"

(DD does however know that other people buy her presents, and does say thankyou to them, it's just ours we don't need thanks for)