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Make up for a 12 year old? dh say's no :(

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Marne · 30/11/2011 11:09

Dsd is 12 (going on 16), she's the youngest of my step children so is quite grown up, i have noticed she has started wearing make up but dh thinks she's too young to be wearing it. I have bought her a small make up set (eye shadow, lip gloss type things) but dh is not that happy about it. Is 12 too young for make up? i think dh is being a bit silly as she's going to wear it if he likes it or not, i would rather she had some nice make up rather than borrowing her mums nasty stuff.

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5inthebed · 30/11/2011 13:20

I think 12 is a good age for make-up. Just lip glosses and some light coloured eye shadow stuff seems fine. I was buying my stepsister make-up sets from roughy that age.

Boots 3 for 2 deals are quite good for the teen make-up as well. Will have a look later for you, have to pop out.

KatAndKit · 30/11/2011 13:24

I think it is too young to be wearing it on a daily basis, I hate seeing 11 and 12 year olds arriving at school with lashings of mascara and make up on.

I wouldn't say no altogether, if it were me I would put some on her and show her how to use it for special occasions such as parties, but not say yes to wearing make up during the day.

sweetsantababy · 30/11/2011 13:26

It wasn't a dig but you go on to mention her bright green and blue from poundland. Shock miaow.

girlywhirly · 30/11/2011 14:24

I think most dads have issues with young girls wearing make-up because they are afraid that they will look older than they are/tarty/at risk from attention from older boys etc. Perhaps he fears she will copy her mum in her choice of make-up.

I think you should talk about why he is saying no. You can explain that you will help her choose suitable products for her age and colouring and coach her in their use. Reason that something forbidden will encourage DSD to be underhand, sneaking out to apply make-up and wiping it off before she comes home. Say that you would support him in rules like no make-up to be worn to school, or during the day, but OK when going to a party or out during the evening with you.

I started wearing a bit of mascara and a very natural lipstick when I was around 12 and a half. My dad commented that if I ended up looking like a clown he would laugh! And I never did, because I cared about what he thought.

wordfactory · 30/11/2011 14:31

12 is a funny age (I should know, DD is 12).
Some girls are plastered in make up, others don't bother at all.

DD is allowed to wear lip gloss, benefit powder, blush and mascara...but she can never be arsed.

witchwithallthetrimmings · 30/11/2011 14:39

give her "how to be a woman" by Caitlin Moran as well. If she is not old/wise enough to get this, she is not old/wise enough to wear makeup

KatAndKit · 30/11/2011 15:17

Nonsense! I started wearing make up around the age of 15 but I would not have been old or wise enough to get that book. I read it recently age 33 and enjoyed it but a lot of the stuff, particularly about losing your virginity, miscarriage, pregnancy, abortion is stuff a 12 year old girl would not be able to relate to at all. It isn't a kids book.

bigTillyMint · 30/11/2011 16:32

DD has various bits of make-up. She started wearing it a bit when she started sec school. She really only wears mascara and lip gloss, only when she is going out socially and usually nothing at all. She mainly dresses in skinnies and hoodies.

She does not look tarty.

Hulababy · 30/11/2011 16:48

12y is not too young for a little bit of make up for parties/weekends imo.
She will wear it anyway, but will end up buying cheap stuff that will be worse for her skin, esp if she has sensitive skin. Or she'll end up borrowing from a friend.

I even let my 9y wear a bit of lip gloss, nail polish and glitter eye stuff for parties. Almost all the girls of this age and older do a little bit for discos.

Maryz · 30/11/2011 17:01

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Chandon · 30/11/2011 17:05

yabu to buy her stuff like that if you don't know her mum approves.

effingwotsits · 30/11/2011 17:07

Make up is fun at that age. They can experiment with it and play around, doesn't mean she's they're automatically going to cake it on every time she leaves the house.

Yanbu.

rhondajean · 30/11/2011 20:25

Definitely not too young. I started buying DD1 who will be 12 this year proper make up last year (Fearne from Boots is really nice). Rules are no makeup to school (she thinks she is sneaking eyeliner past me bless her!) but she can play about with it, wear it to parties etc. I help her put it on so she doesnt end up looking like Widow Twankie (there are girls in her class who do, or who have bright orange foundation lines round their necks).

Even I was allowed veyr pale lipstick and some eyeshadow at 12, and i wasnt allowed to do ANYTHING.

PresentsRibbonsAndMerrySantas · 30/11/2011 20:33

fine, as long as its pale, i have bought some lip gloss and nail varnish for dd [12] as stocking fillers
and last year my sister bought her a few bits. like you say i would rather buy her nice pale makeup that would suit her skin and age, than her wear mine that would not

mrsjay · 01/12/2011 09:01

I dont think 12 is to young for a bit of sparkle and lip gloss , its not as if your giving her foundation etc etc I think its fine mine got those sorts of sets at 11/12

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