Every year I decided I'll 'do drinks' for various different groups of friends before Xmas, but I barely succeed. Not entirely sure why but these are a couple of the factors:
- DH is very un-social. Not 'anti', just 'un'. He greets my idea with an 'Oh no'. So I'd have to do it all.
- Trying to nail a date! It's not so much that every one has had 'a better offer', it's more how people won't commit until the last moment just to make sure there isn't a better offer coming, but even then, even those I consider good friends can do that thing where they phone at 5pm on the evening concerned to say 'sorry, we've had a busy day and I'm shopping with mum tomorrow so do you mind if we give it a miss?' Yes I bloody well do, actually, esp as you're the 3rd couple to do it. So we end up with The New Neighbours whom we're trying to introduce to others. And way too much food. This not only annoys but upsets me too, so I am inclined to not even go there.
The stupid thing is that if we do 'pull it off' we invariably have a good time but the pitfalls seem to great right now!
Musing on the subject, I do find that's like NYE (not that we 'do' NYE anymore!) but the number of times no-one's done anything fun because everyone has failed to commit to each others parties in case something better comes along so the party is cancelled and everyone stays in!