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How much does your mum and dad spend on you at christmas?

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christmaswishes · 26/12/2010 22:44

How much do you get spent on you at christmas by your parents now that you are adults etc or do you still get same as when you were a chid?

what did you get?

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maxybrown · 27/12/2010 11:45

about £20 a piece from my folks, about £20/£30 between us from inlaws

It's plenty IMO

pranma · 27/12/2010 12:55

Mine are dead but until mum died when I was 49 she gave me a Christmas Box which was a shoebox full of little lovely things[a bit like a stocking],a 'surprise',and a main present-how much did she spend......all the love in the world-I miss her still and I am 66 now.With my dc I do spend more on dgc but they still get a stocking,a main pressie,a book and a surprise so dd[36] got 2 dresses and a top[from White Suff],2 books that she wanted and some Moshulu slippers + a packed stocking.

BaroqinAroundTheChristmasTree · 27/12/2010 12:56

I reckon about £5 this year.

sue52 · 27/12/2010 19:51

Nothing for me, my sister and brothers but £25 for each grandchild. There are 13 grandchildren ranging in age from 37 to 4 and they are always remembered every birthday and Christmas. Thats quite enough for pensioners to spend.

jester68 · 27/12/2010 21:10

£30 cash
Tin of celebrations

Then mum also got me some books, 2 dove shower gels

To be honest she spends more on my children which is what we prefer

SantaIsMyLoveSlave · 27/12/2010 21:14

My mother has bought me something costing about £9, because that's what I asked for. She did say "are you sure that's all you want"? She spends about the same on DH and £20 each on the DCs.

My father won't buy anything. Some years he remembers when my birthday is. He doesn't remember when the DCs' birthdays are or when my sister's birthday is.

GrimmaTheNome · 27/12/2010 21:21

This year from my mum - nothing.

But that's because she gave all she could spare - her winter fuel allowance, she's in a retirement home so didn't need it as such - to DB and his family to whom it will have made a real difference. I couldn't have been more pleased .

larry5 · 27/12/2010 21:30

This year for Christmas my mum gave me £25 but in the past I have had a much larger presents from my parents as I am one of 5 children and they would give one of us a larger sum if they felt we needed it.

Mind you my father died last year and left everything to my mother who worked out how much she needed and then gave us thousands of pounds each as she thought it would be better for us to have the money now.

marriednotmulled · 27/12/2010 21:33

My mum spoils us rotten, no matter how many times we tell her not to. It's nice/generous but obscenely (sp?) over the top at the same time.

Reckon she's easily spent £150 on each of us (another 3 siblings) plus £100 cash each and gifts for 3 GCs and my DH.

We've all chastised her about it but she just shrugs and says she won't be here forever so enjoy it while she is.

PartialToACupOfMilo · 27/12/2010 22:11

My mum put together various homemade chutneys, jams, damson gin etc for me and dh and gave the same to my dsis and her dh too. My in laws gave us a homemade (spot the theme!) quilt for our bed which she's been working on for the past three years - it's stunning. And they also gave us a birthday book (as we always forget everyone's ), I got a new brolly and dh got a book.

We loved all the presents they gave us, they were really thoughtful

scouserabroad · 27/12/2010 22:19

That was a lovely idea your Mum had Pranma .

The DDs constantly get presents from my Mum, not just at Christmas, though quite a lot of it is mine & my brothers old toys from the attic

I usually get a jumper / scarf / top - maybe around £15.

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 27/12/2010 22:21

I get a goat for Xmas each year from my Mother..... only these goats live in Africa somewhere so I have not actually met any of my herd.

Nothing from inlaws anymore as MIL as Alzheimers and she was the one that did Xmas.

NellyFartado · 27/12/2010 22:23

£40 cheque for me and £40 cheques each for the DCs. I think that is very generous. My mum probably spends about £200 on clothes for the DCs over the year too. I live in hope of my parents paying our DCs' school fees, but no luck thus far.

wfrances · 28/12/2010 13:50

my mum spent £50 each on dc (x4)
bought dp a polo shirt, book and sweets £50
spoilt me with £100 cash,pjs,slippers,dressing gown ect from m&s.loads of small lovely gifts and nigelas kitchen book.before christmas she went and bought me loads of posh new decos .
eeks prob,comes to over £500 on us .

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christmaswishes · 28/12/2010 14:27

That's alot wfrances. Mum normally gives me and older sister £30-40 and then buys a few small gifts probably 6 ish too. We don't get same as when little as adult now but this year got body butters from boots and a organiser calendar for wall didn't get cash either etc.

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auntyfash · 28/12/2010 14:31

My mum bought a tin of quality street to share between me, my dh and my 5 kids.

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pagwatch · 28/12/2010 14:46

I get nothing from my mum. When dad was alive they used to buy fir my dcs. But she now either asks me to get something for them or just doesn't get anything for them.
She is also less interested in what I get her regardless of how much thought or cost. I sent her a £200 hamper from John Lewis in the run up to Christmas as I thought she would have less to get at the shops but I had to phone her and check it had arrived as she didn't call to tell me.

It does make me a bit sad -I used to enjoy treating her and she used to get lovely things for the children. She bought dd a fairy wishing house thing a few years ago and dd remains convinced it is magic. But now we don't even get a card and she just talks on the phone about bringing something up next time she visits...and then doesn't.

The thing is that the children don't mind and I don't care about the 'things' but it is just another step in her closing down and being less interested in things outside her four walls as she gets older.

Makes me a bit sad tbh. She is old now. Just a couple of years ago she wasn't

MrsSeanBean · 28/12/2010 15:11

That's sad Pagwatch. Similar thing happened this year with my parents, they just didn't cope at all. They got one gift (£40) for ds and complained bitterly about the cost! (And they are far from short of money.)

They spent - ooh - about £5 on me (all hideous stuff which I will have to bin.) I had told them what I had my eye on (thinking it would make life easier) but they either ignored me or were not capable of driving the 5 miles to get it.

I feel so ungrateful but they are not short of money. I spent a lot on them, and it just feels like money down the drain - it seems they just don't recognise or appreciate quality any more. I may as well just have scooped up a handful of items from the supermarket.

Things have been deteriorating all year - last year was a bit suspect - my mother got me a folding 'blu-step' (useful but hardly counted as a 'main' gift).

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christmaswishes · 28/12/2010 19:24

Hi,

Its sad when they give up and dont try or make an effort anymore.
It bugged me a little (not ungreatful) that she bought her friend the body butters (was on 3 for 2 at boots) and this friend she hardly ever sees but then got us practically the same and we are her daughters. Plus theirs no thought into what she did.
I made a lot of effort and very thoughtful with my gifts. I spent quite a lot too. I feel a bit let down as all she was bothered about was what she was getting for christmas for herself not thinking of what she was getting her children or others.
Yes I do reasonably okay and can buy my own things but I dont like it that she looks at it like that. Its not the point.
x

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goodmanners · 28/12/2010 19:34

I dont expect anything i am grown up now and they both retired so id rather they went away on nice holidays and treat themselves. That said my mum hinted she had bought me something beautiful for xmas and when i opened it it was the most hideous purple longish bobbly bits on front huge pensioner buttoned cardigan ever. I wore it all xmas day evening as when i laughed it was hdeous she looked a tadge upset so i said was only joking and wore it and on boxing day when they called round and had it in the boot today in case we went there so i could don it again lol. My inlaws are v generous with us both.

arentfanny · 28/12/2010 19:38

£20 between the pair of us from PIL

from my parents, DH gets a cheque for £150 and me for £250, he also gets a case of wine and a shirt/jumper. This year I got a nice coat and some bronze meerkats.

They are the type of people who have everything and are wealthy and are lovely, I am spending my money on a bookeeping course anda Kitchenaid blender.

lucysmam · 29/12/2010 15:06

My dad bought us a new mattress 3 weeks ago & is giving us £100 towards our new (but probably second hand looking at prices) cooker so £250 plus a cook book between us from him.

MIL bought slippers and chocs for dp and a book and some toffees for me, about £3 spent on each of us probably (I only ever buy £1.99 books from the Works & she left the sticker on it .

I'm just as happy with the book and sweets as with the mattress and money for the cooker. My MIL knows nothing about what I like reading but took the time while here one day to quiz dp about it & look through my bookshelves & then go out and find something she thought I'd enjoy. I'm looking forward to starting it tonight, although the toffees are long gone

fifitrixibell · 29/12/2010 19:11

DM spends about £50 on each of us (DH, DC and I) and PILs spend about £30 -£40.

We do say to them not to worry about getting DH and I much but they like to. It is nice to get a treat - Mum got me perfume I wanted which i would never have bought for myself, and I wasn't getting anything else as we got a wii as a family present for all of us.

ragged · 29/12/2010 19:14

I have an unspoken present amnesty with my dad. Is SUCH A relief. I love him dearly but it's daft for us to try to buy stuff for each other. Some years I get him a charity gift (OxFam teachers for 30 quid) and last year he impulsively bought me a jacket he knew I'd been admiring (~20 quid).

MIL probably spends about 60 quid together on me+DH.

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