Arghhh!! DN texted to say she's dropping presents at my mum's

[Curiousmama]

I thought we'd decided not to give this year We do only buy for the dcs but that means I have to find the cash for 3 presents before Friday. And think of what to get them? I asked my sister if DN would mind us not buying and she got back to me saying that's fine. It was more the fact I don't live so near now so it isn't easy to get there.

The youngest is almost 1, then 8 then 13, all dds.

Oh well I guess I'm not so organised after all?

I don't think it's being unorganised, as you thought you'd decided not to give :/ nightmare eh? Hope you get it sorted!

Get your mum to peek and make sure they arnt lovely 99p token gifts or something. Or perhaps you could email amazon tokens?

That'd be a good idea healthyElfy but her computer isn't working. It's so last minute though dropping them at mum's on Christmas Eve and mum lives in another town. The roads are worse now so not looking like we'll get there so maybe I can buy them something in the sales?

Thanks Juneybean How are you doing anyway? Is your friend still stuck or is she ok now?

2 down 1 to go [frgin] Looked at the local toy shop (near mum's) online site and found 2 items in the sale for baby and middle girl. Rang up and they've put them behind the counjter. Just the teen to buy for now

meant

It's nice to be feeling organised again

I wouldn't have got presents tbh. You agreed not too and she choose to regardless. That's her choice not your agreement. By texting you to say she's left at your mum's she was clearly expecting you to reciprocate though, and now you've done so.
By you getting some gifts too then you (and she) will always think that saying no presents means you'll both get them regardless and you'll have this for years to come.

If you felt you had to get something in return (and I don't believe you needed too) then a selection box would have been fine imo.

All this presure to reciprocate and with similar value is silly IMO. Make it clear next year that agreeing no presents means you won't be getting anything. If she does it again then don't feel you have too. You really don't.

I'm alright thank you! I think her roads are still fairly icy! To put salt in the wound Center Parcs sent an e-mail yesterday saying "Hope you had a great time"

Oh no juneybean Did you get there insurance?

gillybean I know you're right it's just don't want to let her dds down. They'll see her leaving gifts and think I'm a right scrooge!! Don't worry I'll make it clearer next time. I reckon my sister has given the message wrong?

and I meant their insurance. I have brain freeze