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Is this fair?

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NorwegianMoon · 10/12/2010 11:28

we are going to my parents on boxing day and my mum has asked if she can keep all the pressies she has got for my children for them to open on boxing day rather than at ou house on xmas day.

Id really like them to open their gifts on xmas day, i certainly opened my nanas pressies at home on xmas day

Am i being a knob?

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hksi · 10/12/2010 11:32

My children always open presents from others with the person who bought it, even if there will be a few days delay. I think it's lovely if someone has spent time and effort choosing the gift to see a child's reaction when they open it.

GandalfyCarawak · 10/12/2010 11:33

YABU. Your mother wants to see them open their presents, that is fair enough.

dreamingofsun · 10/12/2010 11:33

think its rather nice - as it will mean 2 days of extra special fun for your children. plus it will also be lovely for you mum.

sooz28 · 10/12/2010 11:34

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ShatnersBassoon · 10/12/2010 11:35

They'll enjoy having an additional day of present opening, and your mum will love seeing them open what she's bought for them.

Marne · 10/12/2010 11:38

We always open presents on boxing day from my dad (if we dont see him on x-mas day) and from the step children. I don't see a problem, they will have other things to open on x-mas day and it will make x-mas last a little bit longer (all that build up and its over in one day, why not make it last 2 days?).

werewolf · 10/12/2010 11:38

You're not being a knob.

I've never understood grandparents who did things their way when you were small and still want to do things their way when your children are small.

girlywhirly · 10/12/2010 12:01

Unless the number of presents the children will have on Christmas day will be very few, I think it's nice to spread out the opening of gifts, especially as you are having a get together with your parents.

One day later isn't so bad, it's not as if your mum is making them wait until New Year.

JarethTheGoblinKing · 10/12/2010 12:02

YABAK

I wouldn't dream of insisting that all friends/relatives made sure presents were opened at our house on Christmas day - they get opened when they're given them

Ragwort · 10/12/2010 12:04

I believe it is much better to spread presents out and certainly to give your parents the pleasure of seeing their grandchildren open their presents. Otherwise (in my opinion) - children can get overwhelmed with the volume of presents and it all gets a bit much. Remember - Christmas is not just about presents .

Ragwort · 10/12/2010 12:05

PS - Due to various circumstances my DS will have to his presents over nearly 3 weeks - it often works that way as we live a long way from relatives - he completely understands that and enjoys it all .

Rindercella · 10/12/2010 12:06

You're not a knob, but you are being a little unreasonable

I think it's a lovely idea for the DC to open the presents with their grandmother. Most children get a lot of stuff, so it is also very good for them for it to be spread over a few days.

Two days of present opening. What could be more fun if you're a small child?!

Rindercella · 10/12/2010 12:08

Ahh, Ragwort, you have just said the one thing better than 2 days of presents - 3 weeks' worth is far better!!

AnonEnormousStuffedBird · 10/12/2010 12:08

YABU.

neverenoughMEtime · 10/12/2010 12:10

I dont think YABU. Im with werewolf

My mum wants to do this too.

QuickLookBusySanta · 10/12/2010 12:12

I think it's lovely that your mum wants to see their faces when they open her presents. Let her do it

Ragwort · 10/12/2010 12:12

Rindercella - please don't think I mean a present every day for three weeks - just that the gift giving is spread out over three weeks - having joined in the thread about those who don't spend more than £25 on their child I don't want to appear to have an over indulged DC .

Rindercella · 10/12/2010 12:15

I know, I was just joking.

seeker · 10/12/2010 12:16

"I've never understood grandparents who did things their way when you were small and still want to do things their way when your children are small."

I can't understand people who are so insistent on doing things their way that they aren't prepared to bend a little to accomodate other people.

PaisleyLeaf · 10/12/2010 12:17

Much better to open them Boxing day when they are with her.

StarExpat · 10/12/2010 12:27

Spread the joy over a couple of days and let the grandparents share in the delight of the dc when they see them open their presents.

It's not much to ask, really.

Jux · 10/12/2010 12:27

ILs post presents to dd so she has them here to open on Xmas day. So she would get presents from us, my mum, PILs, SIL, and both her uncles, as well as from friends of ours and friend of hers - all on Xmas day. The pile was huge! Admittedly her uncles and my mum went overboard, but I'd definitely go for the spreading it out option if I could have.

When I was a kid we got everything on Xmas day, but we didn't get much and uncles etc would give 'family' presents like box of biscuits, side of salmon, brace of pheasants etc.

StarExpat · 10/12/2010 12:29

In fact, I'm considering spreading our gifts for DS over a few days, anyway. :) He's 2 and I think it will be fun to let the joy carry on for a bit longer

nannynobblystockingnobs · 10/12/2010 12:31

Christmas morning here is for opening the presents under the tree, ie from us and Santa :) for the presents bought by other people, the DDs open them when we go to visit them or when they visit us. That way they know who exactly has bought them what, and the relastives get to see the present opened. No need to do it all at once in a big unwrapping orgy first thing- spread it out and it's enjoyed more!

SuePurblybiltByElves · 10/12/2010 12:32

You're not a knob. But it's easy to try to over-control stuff to make Christmas "perfect" and lose a bit of perspective.
My parents are coming to me on BD and will bring presents from my grands and their gifts. They will open theirs from DD and me.It's lovely, spreading the joy. Better in fact than overwhelming children with everything on one day I reckon.
So I would say let it go and enjoy having another lovely present session.

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