Nearly every year the PIL phone and tell us when they are coming to visit for xmas(it is a 500 mile journey) I guess they just take it for granted that they can come and i guess we do always let them as they don't get to see our DD's that often. Last year they came for 2 wks. The thing is, they don't actually do anything with the DD's when they are here. They will go for a walk around our village but won't think to take the DD's or the dog with them!! They leave their newspapers all over the house, sit in my favourite chair(which they won't give up for me!!) and basically put their feet up for the whole time!! I will get a little help with dinner on xmas day but that is about all. The tv is so loud because they talk over eveything and they're not very patient wiht DD1 who has ASD. Also, DD1 has to move out of her room so they can stay in it, DD1 then share's with DD2 which is not good as they do not get on.We also BIL on sofa. Dh and i end up rowing about anything and tbh it's not very pleasant. Also, we then can't really have any other visitors as the house isn't big enough.
After last year i said never again. DH spoke with his parents earlier in the year and said that as DD1 struggles when she does not have her own room/space etc, would they stay in a b&b if they want to come for xmas? They agreed that it was probably for the best and the PIL said that they were going to suggest that, GREAT!! Anyway, we booked them into a little 2 bed self catering flat for the xmas week, BIL can stay there as well and it's walking distance to our house.
Today the self catering flat has cancelled our booking. I am livid, PIL due here in 3 wks and DH currently working away! Phoned PIL today and told them what has happened and i have asked if they can try and get a b&b in next village. They were not happy about this, could hear FIL in background saying "why can't we stay there in DD1's room like last year" i was fuming!!. I said that they couldn't stay in DD1 room as during this year we have changed the dd's beds so now there isn't a spare bed, this is true. DH is adamant that they are not staying with us but the problem is i don't want any atmosphere here but then again i don't want my house overflowing.
Advice please, should i back down and try and re arrange beds etc to accomodate them, DH will not be back until the day before PIL arrive so i have to do this on my own OR do i stand firm and make them stay elsewhere? Note to self - absolutely no one is coming to dinner next xmas!!!