setting sensible limits and no presents at all

[OnlyWantsOne]

Just called my sister to tell her that I have bought her kids presents (a couple puzzles and some gruffalo teddies each) havent spent that much, but its things they will actually like and get use out of.

Asked her what to do about our nephew, and apparently I should just get him some thing he will like, and not ask SIL as she told my sister that shes not buying any one else's kids presents this year, but putting the £ in her sons bank instead. (they are all around age 4)

Is it me, is that not mean? You dont hav to spend much to find some thing that the kids will enjoy opening and will play with lots?

Ive found him a lovely floor puzzle for about £8

well i suppose it is up to her what she decides to do, and it will save you buying him something.

You could put the money into your sons bank instead.

I think its kinda mean in the fact that she has money but is putting it in her child's account rather than buying gifts for her nephews and nieces ...
I think if she wants to do that and not swap gifts then she should have told you TBH, as yes it is her choice, but if she wants to change a routine its not fair to not tell folks

Maybe just buy him something tiny for £1 or £2 so he can open it but you wont feel resentful

Ive bought him a lovely puzzle and a teddy, not treating him any differently from my neices! We are all spending christmas day together, wouldnt be fair on him

And Ive found a lovely small gift for her too :)

Im really looking forward to christmas now Ive started the prezzie shopping x