I love Xmas, H hate it

[domeafavour]

Oh dear, where to start.
My H just has his mum and she is in Aussie.no other family
She has been over for the last couple of Xmas'. Last year we had Xmas day at home, just the 4 of us. The first year ever that I have not spent Xmas day with my family. Mainly because my H had a falling out with my brother and it wasn't resolved. We compromised and i went home on Boxing day with DS to have some fun.
The other years she has come to my family's house 200 miles away. She is not travelling for Xmas this year as she came over in Sept.

I want to go home every Xmas, but I could compromise and go home every other year, I think that's fair. But I know H doesn't want to go. He keeps saying we should go to Aussie on 22nd Dec. But it would cost a fortune, and tbh he hates Christmas and doesn't want to celebrate it anyway.
I just think it's unfair for me to do 2 Christmas's away from my family.
He is such a Christmas scrooge
Please don't underestimate this issue, it is really breaking my heart, my heart sinks everytime I think about it
And we need to get organised, cos he won't stay at my parents, cos the bed is uncomfortable, so need to book somewhere to stay.

So last year you spent the day with your MIL, in previous years MIL has been with you along with your family. I think YANBU to have this year with your family then, especially since it would be so expensive to go to Oz and your DH isn't into xmas anyway!

I would probably sit down and discuss xmas properly with H, explain what it means to you and that you don't want to have issues with it every year. So perhaps agree that starting from this year you will all do XXXX and next year you do YYYY. I would also think about what your DS would want to do, as this is very important too. My own personal view point is that christmas is about children and when planning christmas, my thoughts immediately are to seek out what mine would like to do etc.

Regarding the issue between H and your brother, don't know how severe the issue is, but perhap you need to think about a strategy for getting them together to talk again, whether it is to agree to disagree or apologise to each other. Lifes too short!