Falling for my priest and struggling with compressing feelings

[Dipsydoodlenoodle]

As the title says, I am falling for my priest. I know it is wrong. My heart says yes, my head says no!

Can you please help offer some advice? I don't want to stop attending his mass, but I need these feelings to disappear!

Run. Go to a different church.

There are times when you can ride things out but there are times when you have to just run.

See 2 Timothy 2:22

What is your relationship situation? Really powerful attractions can be based on powerful projections (i.e. not at all realistic in an external sense but all the more powerful because they relay an inner truth).

None existent.

This is what I was worried it was, something like this.

I don't want to feel like this, I respect him but I know its not right.

Please do not listen to the poster above @Dipsydoodlenoodle they are being highly blasphemous.

I break my wind over MentorChappell's suggestion.

A priest reciprocating would be more red flags than May Day, Moscow, 1968. ChristmasStar's suggestion is much more sensible.

He has absolutely not reciprocated and I'd not say anything to him as I know how wrong it is. I didn't intend for this. Just need to convince myself its a very bad idea (I know is is, just need to get it ingrained).

It’s not uncommon and those of us who have been to theological college know it happens. Pastoral compassion, care and empathy get received in a way that is not intended. What you do about it is tell yourself this is in your head. You’ve done that which shows you know it is not real.

How do you deal with feelings that are intrusive? Tell yourself no? Remind yourself it isn’t real? Go for a run? Do what you need to do as this cannot go anywhere and you know that.

@MentorChappell i am a bit shocked about what you have shared. I wondered what denomination you are? Or if this is all your own research?
I agree with others, the feelings can be managed and will lessen over time, so you could just wait it out. But obviously be very cautious and dont put yoirself in any vulnerable situations so dont ever be alone with just him.
If its too overwhelming then maybe move church but it seems a bit extreme.

I'm not going to pounce on him if alone, don't worry! Haha.

I think just "voicing it out loud" has helped.

I'm doing that. I know its not real.

I already feel so much better at getting it off my chest. I have a far clearer head and heart today.

Watch Fleabag season two. Maybe the foxes will get him

Maybe the contentious poster is hoping to sell copies of their book?

@Dipsydoodlenoodle Are you Catholic? Best perhaps to 'voice it out loud' and get it off your chest in confession?

I agree with everyone who has advised you to RUN, or at least find another place of worship. I would also suggest you find a prayer partner and Christian mentor to support you.

Interesting - MentorChappell's post seems to have disappeared without a deletion notice. That's good.

@ChristmasStars I hold up my hand and confess I reported them. A BIG thank you to Mumsnet for understanding and taking action.

Nnnnope, I'm still here.

But at least your previous post isn't there!

Update.

I've been to mass and seen him at a social event since (pre-planned).

I don't feel that way - I think I was just having an emotional moment. I just want to be liked (as I do with everyone)!