My mother is German. She isn't always very nice to my 9 year old DD. For example, we invited my mother to come bowling with us and my mother's reply was "well, DD will throw the ball once, have a tantrum that she missed and that will be the end of it". That kind of thing. I try to address these sorts of encounters as they happen and make sure DD and I talk about each incident. It's the way she parented me,so not a huge shock to me! Mother is widowed . I'm an only child and DD is only grandchild.
However, MIL,FIL and SIL all raised concerns as to why I continue to 'expose' my daughter to my mother. DH is no longer willing to spend time with my mother, although they are civil with one another, but does not want my mother to spend time with DD unsupervised by me. Mother disagrees with my DH's stricter parenting style and thinks DH is controlling me into keeping me away from her. I'd rather DD has some relationship with my mother, as long as we talk about any issues. Parents in law think my mother is a 'safeguarding concern'.
Am I being unreasonable to continue spending time with my mother and daughter together?