Don’t want to be alone, and don’t want to meet anyone else! Help!

[LinedOverLatte]

I met a fellow Christian on a Christian dating app and really felt they were ‘the one’. We both felt this and planned a future. However, I think now they were love bombing and future faking because all conversations about actually ‘getting on’ with making this future happen were resisted and despite not really wanting to, I ended things.

So I’m just after a sounding board really - I thought they were my person and don’t want to meet anyone else. The thought of being single going forwards isn’t nice though. For context, I’m older (we both are) so not wanting to have a family or anything (I’ve been there, done that and have grown up children). I just don’t want to be alone, not forever, and don’t feel anyone else would be ‘the one’.

Sigh. What options are there? I feel like ‘once bitten, twice shy’ and can’t do with the heartache of trusting someone, getting to know them etc for it to go nowhere.

I have absolutely no idea what the answer is, except I shall ask for God's answer for you in my prayers.

Whatever happens, I hope you find peace.

@LinedOverLatte I agree with @FuzzyPuffling and I hope you find peace. Pray, go to church as ‘the one’ may be under your nose, and know that not everyone is who they say they are in life, and especially online. Dating sites are notorious. Sadly, just because somebody says they are ‘a Christian’ , doesn’t mean they are.

I think the Relationships board might be more useful for you tbh

It sounds to me like you’re grieving the loss of the relationship that you thought you were in, the envisioned coupled future that has now dissolved into nothing.

Be gentle with yourself.

And be thankful that the mask slipped before you were pulled further into an unhealthy relationship. Well done for having the courage to end it.

God bless. Peace be with you 🙏🏻💖

Thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I also appreciate the prayers. I’m glad I have ended things, and you’re right, I am grieving what I thought we had/ would have.

I do know that God has a plan for me, which may or may not involve being single, and accept that, it’s just hard at times.

I’ve kept off the relationships board TBH in case it was a bit of a pile on. He’s not a bad person at all, has a strong faith etc just didn’t follow through on things and I knew it wouldn’t happen.

I think you did right to stay off the other board - the secular would not understand the Faith perspective. 💐🙏. I also agree with @LeaningOnTheEverlastingArms ’s post.