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Sparklesandbananas · 03/05/2025 22:41

I have started attending church. Not long after I started attending church this women did. The problem began with her gradually I would say. She approached me at church and was really intrusive with questions and dived in for a bear hug that wasn’t wanted. Name, address, kids names, how many kids, kids birthdays, kids schools. I refused to answer her and politely left her to talk to other people. She turned up to places I would attend. The church runs a toddler group that she turned up to and she seemed fixated on my toddler. This women has no kids. She turned up at the youth group evening that my elder children attended. 2 of my children felt followed around and harassed by her. One. Child reported they felt inappropriately questioned by her. She asked the same intrusive questions and let my child know she saw her every morning getting the bus. She turned up on the main road I use to walk on to collect my children from school every day at the same time. She wasn’t there before. She turned up on my door step. I had to close the door in her face while she was talking. I had told her repeatedly I was busy but she continued talking. I didn’t tell her my address so I’ve no idea how she knows where I live. I believe I was followed home by her on one occasion she was outright told to leave me alone. She refused to listen and tried to take my sons pram from me and push it home after being told no. She’s constantly after taking my baby from me and holding him without permission. I don’t hand my baby off to anyone to hold. Repeating the word no to her falls on deaf ears. Every time she sees me she’s very loud in shouting my name and waving at me. I’m giving her the cold shoulder at the moment and ignoring her. It simply isn’t working though. She doesn’t look like she has special needs so I’m baffled as why she acts like this. Other people don’t seem to have a issue with her more is she as fixated on them.

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ChristmasStars · 03/05/2025 22:48

This is so unpleasant. You really need to talk to your church leader about her.

Sparklesandbananas · 03/05/2025 23:17

It’s very unpleasant. I’m a quiet person that doesn’t like confrontation. I don’t want to come across as causing drama. I could have put more and that is only half of it. I will take it up with one of the leaders.

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ChristmasStars · 03/05/2025 23:20

You may not be the first to have concerns. I hope you can speak to someone soon.

Tincanman · 03/05/2025 23:23

What church was this OP?

Interl0per · 03/05/2025 23:30

If you are in a Church of England church, I would encourage you to speak to your Parish Safeguarding Officer. They are best placed to get you the right advice.

HereintheloveofChristIstand · 03/05/2025 23:52

Interl0per · 03/05/2025 23:30

If you are in a Church of England church, I would encourage you to speak to your Parish Safeguarding Officer. They are best placed to get you the right advice.

This. And your vicar.

Mydoglovescheese · 04/05/2025 09:35

We have a similar lady at our church. She has learning disabilities but they’re not obvious so newcomers would not be aware. I’m part of the leadership team and we try to manage any situations effectively but also sensitively. Please talk to either your pastor or a local leader about your concerns. I believe that every church must legally have a safeguarding lead or team in place to address any issues.

Panamanian · 04/05/2025 13:44

So sorry this is happening to you. Definitely talk to your pastor and/or the safeguarding officer. It sounds like she might have additional needs, but in any event you shouldn’t be feeling unsafe or harassed going to church.

Thegreatestoftheseislove · 04/05/2025 16:49

ChristmasStars · 03/05/2025 22:48

This is so unpleasant. You really need to talk to your church leader about her.

I agree.

Sparklesandbananas · 06/05/2025 16:44

I wasn’t the first to have concerns. She is welcome to attend Sunday service but has been told she can not turn up to the toddler group or youth evening. Another parent raised concerns.

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Sparklesandbananas · 06/05/2025 16:53

I’m starting to think she has some degree of learning difficulties that would not be noticed looking at her. When I went to Sunday service she appears to be unaware of a few social cues. Hopefully my concerns are listened to.

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Sparklesandbananas · 06/05/2025 16:57

I have raised my concerns and they appear to have taken them seriously.

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ChristmasStars · 06/05/2025 20:07

Well done @Sparklesandbananas

Thegreatestoftheseislove · 09/05/2025 20:28

Sparklesandbananas · 06/05/2025 16:57

I have raised my concerns and they appear to have taken them seriously.

This is good to hear. 🙂

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