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How to help a friend with a sick DC?

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footstep · 05/04/2010 15:33

My friend's lovely 2yo DD has just been diagnosed with cancer and started what will be many months of arduous treatment

What can I do to help?

I've offered to look after their older DC and do school runs. What else can I do?

I thought of offering to do their laundry - does that sound silly? They don't have a drier, so I thought having taken away and bought back clean and dry might at least mean one less little thing to think about? And I could make that a regular thing..

I know they have supportive family and lots of friends but I'm so sad for them and would really like to help if I can. Any suggestions welcome..

TIA

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footstep · 05/04/2010 15:33

ps - I've got to go out now, but will be back later.

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cocolepew · 05/04/2010 15:34

How sad. School runs and doing the laundry sounds great.

FabIsGettingThere · 05/04/2010 15:36

That is awfully sad.

Laundry would be a great help and no real work for you.

Maybe take the older child for tea sometimes instead of taking straight home after school pick up.

strawberrycornetto · 05/04/2010 15:42

My DS Has been ill although thankfully nothing as serious as cancer.

When he has been in hospital, I have really worried about neglecting my older DD. I would have thought they would really appreciate anything you could do to entertain/look after their other child would be really appreciated.

Marne · 05/04/2010 15:49

You sound like a great friend.

I have never been in your friends shoes but i have 2 dd's with special needs and the one thing i really find hard is keeping up with laundry and ironing so i'm sure that would be a great help to her.

sdr · 05/04/2010 16:33

Our friend's DS was diagnosed with cancer at same age (now all OK) and had older siblings. What they appreciated was taking out the older ones and dropping off meals especially when the little one was in hospital. They also liked anyone helping with mundane chores so spare time could be spent with kids, rather than doing chores, so doing some laundry would be fab.

footstep · 05/04/2010 20:48

Thanks all. I'll make the offer re: the laundry, and will drop meals over every so often too.

Our older DDs are the same age and are friends, and I want to offer to look after/entertain the big sister, but my DD can be a bit obnoxiously bossy and overbearing forthright and I'm worried that she'll be a bit much for her friend who's a more sensitive soul and must be having such a hard time. I guess I'll just have to let my friend know my concerns and leave it up to her.

Thanks again.

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