what a re the chances

[pinkkoala]

i am so cross at the mo, my next door neighbour has a habit of letting her kids play with other kids including mine when they are ill or just been sick.

today my dd has been in the garden talking across the fence to her dd they were about a ft away from each other over the fence when she says to me her dd has just been sick on the kitchen floor.

every time they get something my dd follows, i am now anxious at the thought of her getting it again, i have a fear of being sick.

What do you think her chances are and please can someone explain to me how these things are contagious.

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Try not to worry (i know its hard i share your phobia), the chances are your dd will be fine, i think you need to come into contact with the bug either through the vomit or through touching the child (passing on germs if there are any on the girls hands), so being a ft away she shouldn't have come into contact with it.

It might not even be a bug, maybe it was something she had eaten or she was running around too much after eating her lunch?

marne- thanks for the reply, i know she never touched the other girl but they were quite close at one point, i don't think it was anything she had eaten or from running about.
can you catch it from being close to someone or breathing it in, do you know what the incubation period is.

and do you know the mother has taken the child out now to pick her other dd from playgroup and then gone visiting family.

i am almost in tears and have been grilling my dd about how close was she and did she breathe on you, i brought her straight in and gave her a bath, how silly is that but i can't help it.

can someone give me advice

I think you need to calm down.
Maybe the other mother has no choice but to take her child out with her? Or she's taken her out now because she's fine!
Unless it's a D and V bug like norovirus then your daughter will be fine. Kids are always being sick, usually from eating too much crap and jumping up and down.

I know you probably don't want to hear this, but if you are scrubbing your child in the bath because she has been talking to a child who has thrown up, then you need to speak to someone and get some help for your phobia. It can't be doing your daughter any good living like that.

(I had a vomit phobia until dd was born)

Try and stay calm, don't question dd too much, she will get anxious too and it will not make any difference to weather she has caught it or not.

I bath my dd's in dettol , i am having CBT therapy and was told its ok to do this as part of my therapy, but i agree with Bucharest about getting help for your phobia. If you talk nicely to your GP they can give you anti sickness tablets (which i managed to get yesterday without too much questioning from my GP) then if you get ill you can take them. Is your phobia mainly about you getting sick rather than your dd? (this is the case with me although i hate dealing with dd when she is sick).

The incubation period can be anything from 24-72 hours but usually with little children its closer to 24 hours.

It anoys me that parents let their children mix when they are sick. Chances are if she's well enough to visit family that its not a bug anyway, tummy bugs usually make you feel too rough to go out.

Sending you hugs and calming vibes.

i don't go as far as bathing in dettol, just mr matey. but i understand why you do, the thought has crossed my mind.

my dd got it from them in october and she was so ill.

as for the mum taking them to visit family, she really doesn't worry about what they have got she still takes them anywhere.

can i get some anti sickness tablets from a chemist or do they need to be prescibed, i don't really like going to my doctor, it is me being ill that sends me into a panic. i was told i had an anxiety problem about 9months after having dd.

marne do you find your kids still get d & v bugs even though you are so careful with hygiene, do they get them more often if they are at school.

pinkkoala- Dd1 gets a D&V once a year (roughly the same time every year so i get extra anxious around that time), dd2 is 4 and has only had D&V once but vomits if she gets a high temp. We all had a bug a month ago, i was the first to get it (so out of the blue), followed by dd1 (4 hours after) and then dd2 (a few days after). I had to call my mum to sit with me as i was shaking and crying, i called out of hour GP who gave me anti sickness drugs (dh had to collect them and by the time he got back i had been sick) so now i keep anti sickness drugs in the house.

Go to your GP tomorrow and explain your situation, get some anti sickness drugs to keep in the house.

Dd1's school always has D&v going around but dd1 rarely gets it, i always get very anxious when i hear one of her friends has it or when dd comes home and say's 'so and so was sick today', i panic like you are now, i get anxious i stop eating and i can't sleep, i lie awake listing out for dd1 in case she's ill, i panic if they don't eat their dinner or look sleepy/pale. I know how horrid it is living with this phobia. I'm counting down the days to the summer holidays when they wont be mixing with bugs at school.

Take your self off to your GP, ask to see a female GP or nurse (they are more understanding), ask for the drugs and ask if you can go on the waiting list for CBT.

I started CBT 6 weeks ago after trying hypnotherapy, i decided to go private as i felt i needed to sort myself out as soon as possible as its taking over my life. I am starting to feel more relaxed but i still keep up with good hygiene.

Detol is fine to put in a bath (my mum used to put it in my bath to stop my itchy skin getting infected), the dd's don't need to know its in there. I use it after we have been to soft play or birthday parties.

Children will always get D&V bugs however careful you are, its important that they get bugs to build up their immune system, the bugs will lessen as they get older (i hope).

Last month was the first time i have had it for 4 years. People with this phobia tend to get less bugs or just get the D part, by taking the anti V drugs the D could be worse (but i can cope with that).

You could try taking a herbal medicine for the Anxiety like 'Calms', i find they take the edge off.

Sorry for rabbiting on .

marne-thanks for the reply, i hate feeling like this and as you say it does start to take over your life. My husband tells me not to worry, easy for him to say.
at least you go to soft play, i can't face the thought of it, that sends me into a panic.
my sister is a nurse she has tried to tell me that you have to ingest the bug, meaning swallow the germ by hand to mouth etc to be infected, i know my dd never touched the other girl but was standing pretty close(6ins) before i told her to stand back a bit.

i use anti bac hand soap and hand gel all the time and even get dd to wash hands after being out, eating etc.

pink- i try to avoid soft play, i only go if dd has a party there, i hate the thought of what germs might be in the ball pit.

Hope your dd is ok, i'm sure she will be fine.

marne-she is ok at the mo, 24 hrs after playing with the girl next door. i have had text from the mum to say it was only that one time she was sick and is ok in herself, has eaten tea, slept through the night and is playing back in the garden again today bouncing on the trampoline.

the last time my dd got it from them it was almost 72 hrs after.

can you get a bug that only makes you sick once with no other symptoms.

I would say chances are it wasn't a bug, some children are sick for other reasons, it could have been something she ate/something didn't agree with her, she could have been jumping around too much, it could have been a number of things.

Dd1 was sick last year once in the night and was fine in the morning, none of us caught anything so i put it down to the fact she ate heavy food just before bed time and it didn't settle.

Try and relax.