Chickenpox - Bridesmaid next week

[lovesaruby]

Hi all, my 5yo has come home from school with several red, blistery spots which I know are chickenpox - I know its going round. Fine, normally, but her and my younger daughter are due to be bridesmaids next Thursday. She hasnt been unwell at all prior to the spots and they are probably only about 15 all in all. Younger dd hasnt got any symptoms. Am I dreaming in thinking they might be okay for the wedding in 8 days time? Should I be preparing my sister-in-law for bad news??

you might be lucky. Your DD1 probably won't be contagious anymore, and your DD2 will take 2-3 weeks to develop spots. DD1 may well look a bit spotty in the photos though!

Good luck with the pox. We were afflicted a few weeks ago, so you have my sympathy

spots continue to come out for a few days at least - she might have hundreds by tomorrow lol...

sometimes it takes a week or so for them to stop forming and for existing ones to crust over... she might be okay, but i'd bet on her not being conventionally gorgeous

are there any pg women at wedding? even if sis hasn't yet come out in spots she could still be contagious. i'd be calling sil and warning her of the possibilities, but obv you'll need to wait and see what happens...

what a shame for all of them - but it's not a done deal yet.

Thanks to both of you for repsonding - shes got just one extra on her face this morning - I was thinking Id wake up to her being covered so have everything x'd she'll be having a mild case and if not, well theres always photoshop ! And if dd2 would just be so good as to wait til after next Thursday as youve suggested Ace, that'd be grand! There are a couple of pregnant ladies going to be there - Im also 19 weeks myself, I know both of them so will be talking to them about it before I make any decisions. My midwife has reassured me its only dangerous if youve not had it in childhood, which I most definately have - and have the scars to proove it! Thanks again!

you might be lucky then! dd1 and ds1 had very mild versions (but had been vaccinated). dd2 wasn't so lucky lol.

fingers crossed x

The way it worked for us and a lot of DD1's school friends was a 7-8 days from the first spot until they were all scabbed over and she was okay, and then another week until the younger DC came out, but for the second week the other DC would have been contagious.
If your DD1 is okay (ie spots scabbed) by the wedding it is highly likely that your DD2 will be contagious, sorry. You need to check there aren't a pregnant woman or people at the wedding this is going to be an issue for.

not just pg women btw - mil's father was in hospital when ours had the pox. the hospital told her in no uncertain terms that she should not visit us and him. risk of spreading infection through spores (?) on hair/ clothes etc. mil had the pox donkey's ago. can also be dangerous for people with impaired immune systems due to various things etc.

so pg women ok if they've had, but you need to check for vulnerable others, and also if anyone attending has relatives/ friends long term sick that they might be accessing hospital for... your other dd will certainly be contagious at that point, whether her spots have come out or not.

thanks for all the advice, have now discussed with sis-in-law and as we've covered the pg ladies she's putting the feelers out to everyone else. Im thinking that I just wont allow dd2 to come, which is, of course such a shame, but its dd1 who is really devastated by the thought of missing out on being a bridesmaid and hopefully, she should be past the contagious stage by then. Ive also spent the day contacting friends who we attended a christening with on Sunday so have been the bearer of bad news all day

it's a shame when it clashes with something important. at least they will have it out of the way though.

hope they aren't too unwell with it x