i think my 11yr old ds has anxiety

[candycanesonthexmastree]

this has been going on for a few weeks ,when someone is ill he reacts strangely - he paces the room cries and cant sit still.
last night he was very bad he couldnt sleep and got himself worked up that he was ill and was gonna be sick ,his mind ran away with him and thought it meant he would have to go to hospital.
he kept yawning and dry retching( signs of anxiety) as i have suffered from this before.
another thing that scared me he said ' mum do you sometimes hear your friends calling your name in your head?'#
i think i need to talk to the gp
it doesnt sound good
he had to sleep with me last night.

he was so bad last night up until 11 o'clock crying convincing himself he wasnt going to be able to sleep ,scared there was something more wrong with him then we were letting on , scared if i take him to the gp ,although i havent even said that was what im going to do.
he kept coming in to me ( always me he comes to never dh) so i decided to go and sit with him in his room until he calmed down.
hes asleep now ,i just dont know how much more i can take its really stressing me out and as ive recently recovered from some really bad anxieties im so worried that this will tip over the edge again.
this is just awful.
he wants to know what it is he has got - im just telling him its just that he's worrying but should i tell him that its called anxiety - im so scared of making him worse.
im going to see gp today .
but what can they do ?????? they wont medicate him will they?
he is so clingy to me ,he follows me everywhere asking me all the time if im alright - whats that all about.

please can someone tell me what i can i do - i feel so helpless

candy, I am really really sorry you are still feeling so worried about your son. However I really do think that you need to see the GP about this sooner rather than later. Lots of people have given you (unqualified) advice on here, but you still seem worried and I'm unsure whether you've tried any of the methods suggested by others to attempt to help your son? You obviously need a lot of reassurnce yourself, yet this problem needs adressing not worrying about.

I hope this doesn't sound harsh, I don't mean to upset you, I just think some things probably need to change, if you want your son's behaviour to change.

Candy- I too am really sorry that you and your son are still having problems. I agree with bees post above.
I hope the Dr has given you some help and reassurance this morning.

I agree with Bees.

How did it go at the GP?

hi - sorry its taken so long to get back to you just that ds is always checkng what im doing on the pc and i didnt want him to see that i talking about him
i went to the gp myself and spoke to her and she agreed that it did sound like anxiety and she wanted to see him that day so when i got back i told him we were going to see a doctor and she was gonna check that his tummy was ok and speak to him about what he has been worrying about ,he did have a little cry but didnt freak out as much as i thought he would ,kept him bust until his appointment by playing computer games with him
the gp felt his tummy and all was fine and she explained that when you feel worried you tummy can hurt so that settled his mind a bit and she is referring him to cahms.
not sure how long we have to wait for an appointment.
yesterday he was mostly thinking that he couldnt breathe ,i kept telling him it wouldnt happen,its so destressing as his mother to see him like that and i would give anything for it to be me suffering instead.
i got some lavender and it did help him sleep although he didnt like the smell.
i also gave him a hot water bottle for his tummy aches,lots of cuddles too.
he is still looking forward to things so that a good sign.
so excited about christmas and all his new stuff will hopefully keep him busy,keep his mind off worrying.
i did tell him that it was called anxiety ,he kept on asking what it was called so i felt it was better to tell the truth he is very intelligent,i told him that i had suffered with it in the past and got better and so will he .
makes me so sad when he asks ,when will it all stop ??
he is sleeping better but he has lost weight - which he cant really afford to lose as he is very skinny for his age ( only 4 and half stone)

any ideas how long it takes for the referral to come through - he is a little better but still having trouble fal;ling asleepand is havibng about 3 hrs less than normal- which is making the problem worse and he keeps asking me when it will stop and what can i say