What can we do to help a very very sad dd?

[Lovemyshoes]

DD (9 nearly 10)went to a school disco last night and came home in tears. She is feeling and looking very very sad at the minute, she feels as though she has no friends, and everyone is picking on her (she was being picked on earlier but I put and instant stop to that).

I went up to check on her just after she went to bed and had to cuddle her for a while until she stopped sobbing. She also mentioned to me that she is sat on a desk on her own, apparently a girl that she doesn't get on with engineered it all so she would be sat on her own ???????

I have spoken to the deputy head this morning, she is going to ask her to go into her office this morning and give her a glass of juice etc and have a little talk, she has also referred her to the learning mentor/counsellor and she is seeing her on Monday, her form tutor is ringing me at work later today.

Is there anything else that DH and I can do to cheer her up? We have never been in this situation before.

Does she do anything outside school (riding, brownies, whatever)? A small group of non-school friends can really help in keeping a sense of perspective about the 'mean girls' at school?

why on earth would a teacher allow her to be put in that position where another girl engineers her to be on her own

agree with stealth, it only takes one friend to make it all ok and once her confidence is boosted and spirits lifted she'll be like another girl

get her involved with something over the Easter holidays and she how she gets on with that

does your dd do anything outside school? are there any clubs/activities she would like to join that could maybe help her meet new people and build her confidance?
i really wish i had more ideas, i was a very lonely child at school and reading your post i can see myself as a 10 year old. i hope somebidy has more ideas to help you.

Unfortunately she doesn't do outside school activities anymore as we are struggling financially at the minute

I'm thinking of taking her and her sisters to the pictures tomorrow.

Brownies is very cheap (~£2/week)....

Thanks stealth, I'll look into that.

There are quite a few after school stuff that costs nothing....

check out your local church youth clubs...you dont have to be a church goer to join.

my niece goes to one run by the Baptists she loves it, and it costs just a quid - for a coke and a snack.

she also goes to two youth choirs - completely free and she has lots of friends there from other schools.

it has raised her confidence no end.

our local community centre runs after school clubs for very little money too

is there nobody that she likes who you could have back for a playdate?

I'll definately look into a playdate.