Nephews cancer is showing up again and has spread to his lungs :-(

[SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore]

There was no cancer showing on his last scan. Doctors said that it was still there and not to get our hopes up because they were certain that it would be back but you cling to every bit hope don't you? No matter how small or imppossible. Or at least i do I still cannot comprehend how sil is dealing with this so well.

They don't think they are going to treat it atm but this hasn't been confirmed yet, they are having meetings etc with all his doctors to discuss the best way to go from here.

You don't get long when it is in your lungs do you? DH told me this morning but it is dd1's birthday and I couldn't let this ruin her day so I didn't give him the support he wanted and now he probably thinks I don't care. There is enough time for dd1 to be upset about this but I don't want it taking all the shine off her birthday, not with everything she is going to have to deal with in the future.

How do you tell a five year old that her nine year old cousin isn't likely to be here with us next year? I don't even know how to deal with it and I am 27! And I have no clue how nephew is coping iwth it all at his age, poor boy.

I am so sorry for you.

Tell your husband of course you care but you are also sad that it is your DD's birthday. Do you have to tell her anything yet? My DD was just four when her GN died and we didn't tell her she was ill until the last day, partly as we didn't realise how ill and that she would die, but also she is a worrier at times and I didn't want to prolong it for her.

No no one knows how bad it is yet and sil wants to keep that way she doesn't want people treating him differently but she always said she would tell people when it progressed so it looks like dd1 will have to know soon.

She knows he is very very poorly and that doctirs are trying to their best to help him.

I'm sorry seashells

My uncle died when I was 5 and he was 10. I knew that he wasn't well but I didn't know he would die.
I'm glad I didn't as I wouldn't have understood and we used to play together and then he used to read to me when he was sicker.

I'm sorry for you and your family having to go through this

I am so sorry

gosh this is terrible. Very sad for you and your family.

Watercress (organic) is actually miraculous at not just preventing lung cancer but actually changing thje cells that have cancer (I won't say cure but its so so beneficial)

and as much raw, organic food as possible.

I know this may sound ridiculous but I am a believer in doing everything humanly possible to fight for life

kalo or maybe just lots of hugs and time spent making him feel really happy?

oh of course the lots of hugs and happiness, of course of course. But there isn't any point in me not sharting the info about watercress.

its very very sad for all concerned, your poor nephew.

no it doesn't sound ridiculous at all, kalo. bil and sil are already doing all of that for him. they did all last time he had cancer. he has filtered water and air purifiers and everything. they even grow their own veg so they know it is as fresh as possible. I'll pass on your watercress tip though.

I didn't mean that meanly Kalo forgive me if it seemed that way.
It's just that I feel there comes a time for acceptance and spoiling not raw organic food and watercress for a nine yo and if that time has come then I advocate spoiling all the way.

I mean all of you btw.

Spoiling is also already been done. I don't think there is anything he hasn't got, he got an award last week all the other kids were getting laptops etc for bravery etc he already had everything so he got vouchers. He is having plenty of family time and has had special holidays and things and lots of hugs and parties etc.

I think the veg thing is just clinging on to the hope that something might work. It is impossible to just 'give up' on a child and wait for the worst to happen. You have to try everything no matter how silly it seems.

oh ronaldinho - i know, and also I take it as understood that all love and care and sympathy will be forthcoming

but also , there may be others in the family who may be at risk if its something hereditary, and there may be others reading the thread who might want to know , infact anyone who smokes should eat watercress three times a week so it says in my nutrition health book, also in cases of severe illness i'm sure all carers want to do all they can for there own personal well being for how they will deal with this and gain some perspective through this tough time

I know seashells, like I said I am so very sorry that this is happening to your family