Does anyone know anything about Fetal Alcohol Syndrome?

[QuickTour]

Around 18 days after conception and with no idea I was pregnant I got really drunk. Prossecco, red wine, brandy.

Once I found out I was pregnant I didn't touch another drop.

My daughter is clever, sociable and behaves normally. She does not have an indistinct philitrum or a thin upper lip. She is nearly 2 and has been walking since 10 months, knows her alphabet, sings several songs word perfectly, is chatty and speaks in pretty near full sentences.

She does however have epicanthal folds, drooping eye lids, a flat mid face, an underbite and a heart defect - all of which are symptomatic.

The wisdom appears to be that facial features always imply brain damage and come at the far end of the spectrum but I have no worries whatsoever about her development. Do they not really know? I've been looking for signs of this since the day I found out I was having her with abject terror. And I don't know if I should do anything about it.

I've read absolutely everything I can find on the internet so I'm hoping really for someone who has some knowledge of it first hand - what should I do?

As several others have said, the facial features you describe, also combined with heart issues, can be indicative of a whole range of genetic conditions. The vast majority of these would not be caused by anything you had done!

My dd2 sounds a little similar to yours in facial features - flat mid-face, epicanthal folds, no philtrum, thin lips. However, unlike your dd, she also has microcephaly and severe learning disabilities. I barely drank a drop throughout pregnancy!! So these features can quite definitely be completely unrelated to alcohol consumption.

Please try not to worry although it is very difficult not to I know. Your dd sounds wonderful and her development sounds very normal - I hope all goes well with the heart specialist, and hopefully with time you will be reassured and be able to relax and enjoy your dd

Thank you for clarification sgb

QuickTour hope you don't mind me bumping your thread, I'm not sure if you are still around but I was wondering how things are? You can CAT me if you want?

Hi, i’m in the same boat, My baby just born with japonese eyes, mother and father are white.
Can you tell how is your dauther today?