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Tics in my now 4 year old…

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foreverhopeful1uk · 10/06/2026 08:53

Hi all,

I’m looking for some advice and maybe some reassurance from anyone who’s been through something similar.

My son is 4½ and started with a blinking tic when he was around 2½. It disappeared for about a year, but then he developed other tics including head jerking, sniffing, blinking, eye rolling, grimacing and mouth stretching. One seems to go away and then another appears. If he gets a cold, he often develops a sniffing tic or a mouth movement that can last for a few weeks.

For a while things seemed to be settling down, but over the last couple of weeks (after another cold) he seems to have developed more tics again. The mouth/nose stretching is back, as well as some grimacing and head bobbing. It’s now been nearly two years since the tics first appeared and I’m starting to feel quite worried about it.

I’ve noticed that his blinking tics are most obvious when he’s watching TV, so we’ve reduced screen time significantly. They also tend to happen when he’s in the car or otherwise sitting idle.

Something else I’ve noticed recently is that he sometimes traces shapes, numbers or letters in the air with his finger. Sometimes he’ll tell me he’s writing a number or copying a shape he’s seen, but other times it seems almost automatic and he doesn’t appear particularly aware he’s doing it. I’m not sure whether it’s just something he’s picked up while learning to write at school or whether it could be another tic.

We have seen a neurologist who wasn’t concerned and basically said childhood tics are common and that we should wait and see whether they improve as his nervous system matures. Intellectually I understand that, but I still find myself worrying, especially as it’s been going on for quite a long time now.

I’d be really interested to hear from anyone whose child had multiple tics from a young age. Did they eventually grow out of them? Did they improve with age? Has anyone seen anything similar with the air writing/tracing?

Thank you.

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Pam100127 · 12/06/2026 16:30

Ihaveneedofwaternear · 10/06/2026 21:38

No explanation as such for the air drawing, but from watching him I think he's just "acting out" what's in his head. He's always in his own head, thinking about numbers or shapes or a picture - he just seems to be tracing it out in the air. Sometimes it does almost seem like a kind of stim, just doing a shape or a movement - it doesn't bother him or cause any problems. Ok then contrary, he's usually relaxed or excited when he's doing it.

He isn't diagnosed as autistic, but it has been mentioned. He does have a lot of behaviours that align with ASD, e.g. special interests like learning 200 digits of pi or the elements of the periodic table, lining up/arranging by colour/size etc when younger. Counting - endless, endless counting! He is very interested in numbers. His social skills were quite slow to come, as was imaginative play. But they have come on, and a lot of the more "ASD" style behaviours have become less intense. I think he's probably just learned to cope with some things better as he's older (like loud noises, busy environments).

He's also friendly and sociable and chatty. Language skills are and have always been very advanced. Was reading very early, doing sums very early. I think those things can actually be an indication of neuro divergence.

What is it that you are most worried about, do you think?

My son was the same, Pi, the periodic table, all the different birds by the age of 3, the planets of the solar system, and anything else that required memory.
During Covid, when he was already good at coding, he ran a cottage industry from his bedroom, doing CGI for US gaming companies, while at the same time researching all aspects of AI, doing sample online university courses, so much so that he was given a Graduate job, without ever going to University (the universities told us he would be bored).

MagicHouse · 13/06/2026 10:51

foreverhopeful1uk · 11/06/2026 10:28

Hi which magnesium do you use? I am using Liposomal Magnesium from Mighty Kids and I can’t really say if it’s actually making a difference.

We used Floradix liquid magnesium. It was really effective.

Aberdeenusername · 19/06/2026 23:53

Ihaveneedofwaternear · 10/06/2026 17:13

Your post could also describe my son, who is just 8 now. His tics started at age 2, were very frequent and invasive between ages 4.5-7, but have lessened off a bit over the last year. He also traces/writes things in the air all the time, waves fingers infront of his eyes. He says he sees things like numbers/shapes/colours. He also has a lot of compulsive type movements (tapping, stamping, counting, looking in a certain pattern e.g. left-right-left etc) that sometimes looks like tics. Can be anxious. Can get "stuck" in thought patterns. Sometimes says numbers or letters have colours.

He saw the child mental health team, the nurse said he presents as though he may have OCD, and/or tic disorder. She said tics are really common in kids, often outgrown.

We talk about them, name them, normalise them, validate how they can be annoying, talk about how everyone's body and brain are different. Explore which are voluntary and involuntary. Gently challenge any thoughts that seem a bit troublesome, e.g. the boss in my head says I have to tap in even numbers.

I worried a lot over the years about could it be this or that. At the minute, I just focus on how he's feeling and as long as that seems ok then I try to be laid back about it all!

Gosh it’s like I have written this my son is 8 and has the same tics as well as sort of compulsions, stomping his feet, looking left to right. It’s nice to know we are not alone!

foreverhopeful1uk · 20/06/2026 15:09

Aberdeenusername · 19/06/2026 23:53

Gosh it’s like I have written this my son is 8 and has the same tics as well as sort of compulsions, stomping his feet, looking left to right. It’s nice to know we are not alone!

Hi how long has your son had this? I am Hopeful that it will ease off in time

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Aberdeenusername · 21/06/2026 21:06

foreverhopeful1uk · 20/06/2026 15:09

Hi how long has your son had this? I am Hopeful that it will ease off in time

So he’s had his tics off and on since he was 3 but the compulsiony type ones he’s only had since about March I think 💭 for about 2/3 weeks in April they were horrendous as there were so many using his hands - he could hardly write but it calmed down again to a point but they are always around at the same time, he just seems to be able to navigate life around them. He’s 8.5 right now and apparently between now and 12 is when they peak if they have had them from a really early age then meant to taper off after 12/13 so fingers crossed that’s true for your son and mine!

Ihaveneedofwaternear · 21/06/2026 21:36

Aberdeenusername · 21/06/2026 21:06

So he’s had his tics off and on since he was 3 but the compulsiony type ones he’s only had since about March I think 💭 for about 2/3 weeks in April they were horrendous as there were so many using his hands - he could hardly write but it calmed down again to a point but they are always around at the same time, he just seems to be able to navigate life around them. He’s 8.5 right now and apparently between now and 12 is when they peak if they have had them from a really early age then meant to taper off after 12/13 so fingers crossed that’s true for your son and mine!

And mine! Didn't know this, thanks 👍

foreverhopeful1uk · 11/07/2026 07:40

Hi all it’s me again, I feel like you are only ones who know what I’m going through. Recently I would say 3 weeks ago, he would start sort of counting randomly very quietly almost like a whisper, that’s now stopped and evolved in him saying up down across sometimes when he’s also doing the air writing and he will move it along with his words if that makes sense. I think this is now a complex motor and vocal tic, as he’s never had those before I’m nervous it’s escalating and he will start and say other things. Has any of your little ones gone on to do this and like all the others it’s just stopped? I’m getting really panicked about it all. Thanks for listening xx

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Ihaveneedofwaternear · 11/07/2026 08:42

This sounds just like my little boy, it all escalated in very similar ways when he was 4. As I've said in my previous posts, it's a lot calmer now from the later end of 7. Underneath it for my boy was anxiety and feeling the need to control or be "safe". There was a lot going on in his head, which he couldn't really tell me.

As I think I've said before, we focussed on naming our own feelings in a simple way and commenting on how we thought he was feeling, so trying to give him some language around emotions. We tried to validate and normalise big emotions while supporting resilience and self-esteem. We also didn't mention the tics unless he did, and we kept it very casual and again tried to normalise how all bodies and brains are different.

We still had a lot of years of big, complex tics for long stretches, and they still crop up now. But my son is also happy, confident, doing well academically, and has a nice little group of friends.

How is your little boy doing more generally, outside of the tics?

foreverhopeful1uk · 11/07/2026 08:51

he seems ok generally, we are expats so live half the year in the UK and half the year out, we are back in the UK currently. He has an older brother that he likes to keep up with so I often feel he’s older than 4 or at least tries to keep up with an 8 year old. he often gets upset or frustrated and lashes out but he’s quick to settle and apologises. He’s also doing well academically and loves sports. He has lots of friends and does well socially. I’m worried the words thing will escalate. So around 7 did you notice they slowly started to drop off? He did do a mouth stretch at the beginning of this cycle but that has gone and his air blowing thing and grimaces have also slowly started to relax, it’s more the “ up down “ statements that have ramped up x

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Nousernameideaaga · 11/07/2026 08:51

My daughter developed tics aged 12, blinking, eye rolling, having to scan each corner of the room etc.

I was very worried to start with but everything I read reassured me not to.

We gave no intervention at all besides reassuring not to worry and not to try and force herself to stop if they were annoying her. Reassured her that they are incredibly common in children.

Shes 15 now and they are virtually gone. Only appear every now and then if she is extra tired.

No adhd or asd.

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