Toddler Constantly Sick

[MabelNala]

My little boy has just turned 2, he has glue ear and is currently isolating for a grommet surgery and adenoid removal. We’re isolating because this is his 3rd surgery date, the last two have been cancelled due to illness.
He has ear infections and tonsillitis twice a month, along side that he has had chickenpox, hand foot and mouth, vomitting and diarrhoea bugs and bronchiolitis inbetween these infections. He is genuinely ill every single week.
I’m a very hygienic person. He is bathed every night, his diet is great, balanced - protein, lots of fruit and veg. Drinks lots of water.
My whole world revolves around him.
When I say he is ill every week, we’ve had him in children’s a&e 15 times in the past 10 months on top of doctors and hospital appointments.
I am truly truly drained. I am a very patient person, but the constant screaming from infections, cleaning vomit and diarrhea, it’s taking a toll on me.
I know that he’s not giving me a hard time, he is having a hard time. Generally he is a loving happy little boy and I feel so sorry for him. I have done all I can constantly trying to get him treatment from hospital.

I obviously know that it’s not a normal amount for a toddler to be this sick, but I’m just wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation and any tips to get through this?

I’m hoping that once he’s had his surgery this should be easier as his ear and throat infections will hopefully stop and we will just have general nursery illnesses.

Oh that's awful OP. Has he had a blood test / testing to rule out an autoimmune disease? I only ask as my DC were quite sickly and we discovered they had coeliac disease.

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Definitely not normal
Has he had a full blood panel and scans taken?

Sorry I know this is a late reply, I only just saw your thread.
I really hope the surgery is a success and he starts to feel better soon.
Things that will reduce spread of infections generally are good ventilation, air filtration, high quality masks, clean hands, cleaning touch points.
I would start with nursery and ask if they are able to improve ventilation and encourage outdoor play. Co2 monitors will give a good idea of whether ventilation is good. Smart Air sell a good one for around £60. Ideally Co2 needs to be kept under 800, if it goes over 1500 regularly there's a big issue with ventilation.
If anyone at home is ill, it's a good idea to increase ventilation to reduce spread of illness at home too.
Air filtration such as HEPA filters will also reduce spread of viruses and bacteria, as well as remove pollutants and allergens from the air, so have lots of health benefits. These are more expensive so perhaps not an option, but probably the highest risk place is nursery - could you afford to donate one for his room, or could they crowdfund for some maybe? If the nursery is a not for profit organisation maybe the Corsi Rosenthal foundation would help (they're a charity). You need the highest cadr (clean air delivery rate) affordable and to avoid ones with UV and ionisers. We have HEPA filters at home also - it sounds like one for your main living space and one for his bedroom might be helpful if it was affordable. Smart Air sell a decent range, also IKEA sell air purifiers (they're not HEPA but they're still decent). Amazon basics and Levoit are other decent brands.
Obviously you can't expect little ones to wear masks, however it would be good for you and his dad to wear them in higher risk settings to reduce risk of picking anything up that you might pass on to him. FFP2 masks are good. It's definitely worth wearing them in health settings (especially those a&e visits) on public transport and in supermarkets etc. Would be worth wearing them for nursery pick up and drop off too. Nursery could also ask any adults with symptoms coming into the premises to wear a mask, which would help. It would be helpful if staff who are working with colds etc could wear one. If you or dad are ill at home wear a mask around your little one too to reduce the risk of passing it on to him.
If you did think your little one could tolerate a mask for short periods (eg in a&e where there are likely to be infectious children) have a look at the face mask store, I think they sell children's masks there.
Ask nursery also what they're doing around hand washing, cleaning touch points etc, it's difficult in a nursery but would be good to understand what they're doing already and if there's room for improvements there.

My friend's child was like this - antibiotics every month, endless ear and throat infections, and susceptible to everything going. They paid privately to have his tonsils out, and he is now absolutely fine. I would definitely recommend looking into it.