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Accused of harming my baby while doctors investigate high calcium levels

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Smummy04 · 17/04/2026 06:30

Took my 4 week old to the doctors to get his milk as he has a milk allergy but also mentioned that he had these 3 lesion marks on his belly that appeared from no where Told me not to worry. But I did as they looked like bruises and I knew I had done anything so took him straight to a&e where I was accused of child abuse and social services were called on me he’s now been in hospital a week had ct scan, full body xray and ultrasound on his stomach which has all come back normal but I was originally told he had low vitamin d but it’s only come out now a week later he’s got high calcium levels in his blood. I’m still being accused of harming my child when I know I havnt I’ve had my other 2 kids put into my mums care.

my little boy has had issues since birth always in pain always crying unless asleep hard to settle and always been super constipated until having laxatives

the doctors won’t look into anything as they keep blaming me it wasn’t until last night were I begged a doctor and he compared his blood tests and stated he’s had high calcium for a week and they because of this they was going to preform another blood test on him to see if the levels were still high.

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Velvetandleather · 17/04/2026 10:07

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 17/04/2026 07:32

OP, please ask the hospital specifically about something called Subcutaneous Fat Necrosis of the Newborn

It's rare, it's caused by a traumatic birth, it's a condition where fat cells break down and look like dark purple bruises and it releases potentially dangerous levels of calcium which babies then need to be monitored for.

Its not something most doctors will recognise - DD was eventually diagnosed with it by dermatology after several days in hospital.

The ops images are absoltely not remotely similar to subcutaneous fat necrosis. If you’re unsure you can google images.

op, I suspect the issue here is your baby looks very bruised. It is highly unlikely to be fat necrosis as it doesn’t present like that , but of course you can ask the doctors to be sure. I’d also not take it as read posters on here are more knowledge and than the consultants at the hospital.

the medical staff have to understand the cause before they allow you or the father near the baby alone again, for very obvious reasons, they need to rule out either of you harming the baby, and cannot risk it will happen again when they can’t say for sure.

they will find out whay has caused this, for sure.

K122 · 17/04/2026 10:20

Sorry you are going through this. The same thing happened to me when I noticed a very small bruise on my baby and was worried - so I took her to the GP and ended up in hospital having to go through the safeguarding procedure. It’s just awful!!! Hope they repeat the bloods and can find an explanation x

K122 · 17/04/2026 10:21

Also, have they had a meeting with HV / GP etc?? This was what happened when it happened to me. Thankfully I’d had lots of contact with the HV so she was able to report back that she had no concerns with us!

LifeBeginsToday · 17/04/2026 11:57

Another one who is currently going through this. Granddaughter is having genetic testing at Great Ormond Street for a very likely rare condition (physical features present for this) but one of the the symptoms is low weight gain. She is on a child protection plan in the meantime. Guilty until proven innocent.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 17/04/2026 12:09

Could one of your other children have done it?

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 17/04/2026 13:45

Velvetandleather · 17/04/2026 10:07

The ops images are absoltely not remotely similar to subcutaneous fat necrosis. If you’re unsure you can google images.

op, I suspect the issue here is your baby looks very bruised. It is highly unlikely to be fat necrosis as it doesn’t present like that , but of course you can ask the doctors to be sure. I’d also not take it as read posters on here are more knowledge and than the consultants at the hospital.

the medical staff have to understand the cause before they allow you or the father near the baby alone again, for very obvious reasons, they need to rule out either of you harming the baby, and cannot risk it will happen again when they can’t say for sure.

they will find out whay has caused this, for sure.

I don't need to check Google, my child had it, I've posted a picture of her.

But here you go, these look pretty similar to me. It's not always horrendous black lesions.

Bruising, high calcium, after a traumatic birth, it's worth asking if they've considered it.

Accused of harming my baby while doctors investigate high calcium levels
Smummy04 · 18/04/2026 09:00

captaincannot · 17/04/2026 07:13

I am so upset for you. This happened to my sister (with her first). It was awful and terrible. It took about two weeks to be resolved. Her advice would be that you just have to follow all the channels and processes and keep as calm as possible (and encourage those around you to do the same - my Dad was a nightmare and really didn’t help give the impression that we were a family who wouldn’t hurt a child). She tried also to keep in mind that the HV was doing her job in raising her concerns. They never found out what the mark were either. And she’d raised them with the HV too! All strength.

It’s just so hard as my son didn’t have any marks on him at all even on the Thursday morning they literally just appeared out of no where

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Velvetandleather · 18/04/2026 09:05

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 17/04/2026 13:45

I don't need to check Google, my child had it, I've posted a picture of her.

But here you go, these look pretty similar to me. It's not always horrendous black lesions.

Bruising, high calcium, after a traumatic birth, it's worth asking if they've considered it.

I’m sorry your child had it and hope she’s ok, but they do not look remotely similar; the ops look like bruises, your babies doesn’t. Even a lay person would see your babies were not Bruises.

Momofmanykids · 18/04/2026 09:23

What’s wrong with the doctors. Bruising plus high calcium is a diagnosis of subcutaneous fat necrosis !
are they ok ? Why they making u still go through this. They should admitted error after high calcium results

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