Child always ill

[Lcw29]

My son is almost 6. He's constantly getting ill. It's been like that for years. Alot of tonsillitis episodes, fevers, bugs etc...
He's been to ENT who think his adenoids are causing alot of issues. He mouth breathes and dribbles. But since he doesn't fit the usual requirements for removal we have to wait for further assessment.
Friday night he hallucinated. Sat bolt up right screaming like he was being attacked. Trembling all over. He's done this a number of times over the last year, usually when coming down with something. Then Saturday morning he threw up 5 times so clearly had another bug. He's fine today but still off food and sore tummy. He has a sore tummy alot. His glands are constantly swollen in his neck too.
Does anyone have experience with similar issues? Even with a simple cold he gets really poorly. I'm just concerned as it's not fair on him. He takes vitamins but nothing really helps.

Could you pay to go private? It does sound like something is causing the constant illness.

My friend's son kept getting tonsillitis almost every month, he was always on antibiotics. They paid 3.5k to have them removed, and he's like a different child now. The NHS waiting list was 18 months.

I have thought about this but would need to save a bit. They have said that they'll see us in a couple of months. I've been told to write every illness, bad throat etc down. Also if he has sleep apnea it becomes more urgent. Which I think he does. Bit of a nightmare tho. Who did you go with privately? Not sure how it works.

if you go private then you find an ENT at your nearest private hospital. Try mighty kids vit c and some good quality vit d3 and k2 vitamins. I think you also stand a chance of getting your gp to do a more urgent referral if he’s getting ill that much because of tonsils. Sounds like they need to removed tonsils and adenoids asap.

My friend just went to our local private hospital. It's probably worth calling them for a chat about it, they can let you know if anyone suitable works there and a rough guide to costs.

If you want to stay NHS then yes, you'll need very detailed notes on every instance and any other effects it has on her life. You need to keep pushing for a referral and treatment. The sore tummy makes me think of dietary intolerances.

Friday night he hallucinated. Sat bolt up right screaming like he was being attacked. Trembling all over. He's done this a number of times over the last year, usually when coming down with something.

DD had this regularly between 4-6. They were night terrors that are often triggered by poor sleep, which in turn, is caused by illness. It usually happens on the dot 1-2 hours after falling asleep. It's a faulty transition from light to deep sleep. She could sometimes wake 3-4 times a night, screaming and distressed but have no memory of it in the morning.

If it's any consolation, it's almost certainly not hallucinations caused by fever or a virus, but a harmless neurological issue similar to sleepwalking. DD also has enlarged adenoids (but not big enough to qualify for surgery) and struggles a bit with breathing during sleep. When congested, the breathing gets worse and that triggers the sleep issues. Every episode she's had was triggered by a virus.

The best way to deal with night terrors is gently talk to them and guide them to bed (with minimal touching) even though it's terrifying and distressing for you to witness. They are technically asleep even if they look like they're awake. I only wake her up as a very last resort if she's inconsolable or at risk of injuring herself. You need immediately positive distraction so if you wake them up, let them play or watch ipad, or have a new toy or something that snaps them out of the dream. Just trying to wake them up and talk to them or get them to drink water is usually ineffective.