DS 6 months recovering from chest infection - should he go to grandparents and playgroup?

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Need some perspective please!

DS is 6 months. Nursery called Tuesday - temp over 38. He went downhill fast, temp hit 39 by evening. GP diagnosed chest infection, prescribed antibiotics. He was really poorly.

Last 24 hours his temp has been fine (gave Calpol this morning as precaution). Still has cough and runny nose but today much better - eating all bottles and food, seems himself again. Bit clingy but ok.

Grandparents are meant to have him tomorrow and take him to playgroup. They live half hour away and can’t come to us.

WWYD? He’s clearly on the mend but is it too soon? Is it fair on them if he’s still a bit under the weather?

DH will argue the toss as they’re his parents and look forward to having DS. But his health comes first for me!

My mum is saying keep him indoors for a week and won’t stop telling me what to do (she’s very territorial). Already had a row about it.

Feel stuck between everyone’s opinions when I just want to do what’s best for him!
Thanks x

I would not send him back out into a playgroup this quickly. Has he finished the antibiotics? If not, definitely no. I’d mix again on Monday. See how it goes over the weekend. A child would probably be away from school for 5 days with this (well mine was - aged 6).

I’d send him to grandparents as long as they are happy to have him, but not toddler group.

Ok thanks @OhDear111he hasn’t finished the course. What about going to grandparents or should he just stay home do you think? Until the course is finished?

I'd keep him home with me, if able. Although, I wouldn't prevent the grandparents from visiting, if they were keen.

No playgroup, could easily catch something else or spread something. Can go to grandparents if they don't mind but not out.

Ok thank you @Overthebow

@Morechocmorechocthank you. Grandparents is hour round trip I’m worried it might be a bit much and they are elderly granddad is 80 and not in the best of health. I am fed up with DH he is selfish and just tells me to send him anywhere

@untitled1 Grandparents - yes. Why not? Mixing with other dc - wait until next week.

Up to the grandparents whether they want to risk it, but definitely no other mixing.

If grandparents are elderly then it’s not a good idea in terms of their health. If he is clingy to your and DH at the moment then it isn’t in his best interests.

Thank you all, I decided to cancel completely it’s the best safest option all round I think

Baby on antibiotics won’t give anything to grandad. Let them make the decision about having him. He will probably sleep in the car. If grandad isn’t well enough, that’s another matter. You didn’t say that originally.

I'd have cancelled too OP, DD was always super clingy when she was ill as a baby/toddler and really grumpy. Shed have been too much for her elderly grandparents to cope with. Definitely wouldn't have taken her to play group until she was 100% again either incase she caught something else whilst her immune system was low!

Depends on grandparents' health (some grandparents are super fit and under 40, so I don't presume!), or that of other friends/family they're going to visit. There might be someone who has a health concern but is keeping it quiet until they find the full details, so I'd go into detail about it all, and if they're happy, then let him go, but be clear you understand if they'd rather not see him.

Well now because DS has woken up and seems much better I have had DH on the phone pressuring me into reversing my decision. He says it isn’t logical and we are both knackered, but I can do whatever.

It annoyed me because he went out last night basically on the piss all afternoon and evening - I then looked after DS overnight he’s had him two hours this morning?? So basically he’s done two hours of childcare in the last 24 hours and is still trying to escape?

maybe I’m being unreasonable

I wouldn't have a problem sending him to his grandparents if he was on the mend and they are happy with it. I am guessing that if he goes regularly that he will be comfortable with him (probably a bit different if they don't do regular childcare). Playgroup is probably too much though (and he risks picking something up). Whether your DP pulls his weight is a slightly different question!

@untitled1 You are both sending him to grandparents! My Dh barely did 2 hours a week! I’d forget about DHs views. If grandparents want to see him, take him.

I wouldn't given the age of the grandparents. This time of year, and at that age, it's actually more likely to be viral than bacterial, especially as you mention a runny nose. Those are spread easily, and hit the young and the elderly hard.

So in the end DH called me in the morning to say can he go and I agreed. Dropped DS off and then picked him up four hours later to find out he’s been out to another relatives house, ten min walk each way with no hat, I didn’t leave a Blakey so probably no blanket either (though he did have a coat), and that there were five people there including children,

am I right to be fuming about this? He is coughing very chesty and three days ago had very high temp couldn’t they just keep him in? I didn’t think I had to explicitly say this

Well no personally I wouldn't be bothered by this