Worry

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I have 2 children aged 6 and 8. I find that with my youngest I am constantly looking for lumps on him particularly on his neck. I tell myself all the time that he has a lump or swelling on his neck and then every bath time im looking at his neck and then spend every evening convincing myself he has a lump on his neck. This is becoming very consuming and im sad that it’s ruining bath time when he’s so happy and having fun and im looking for things on him. Any advice? He is a wonderful boy and im wasting my time worrying and not enjoying him which makes me sad any angry with myself

Does he actually have a lump on his neck? If not, why do you keep checking? Does it make him uncomfortable or worried there’s something wrong with him? For a child that must be horrible to have their mother actively looking for something wrong with them but not their sibling, poor kid.

Why do you only obsessively worry about one child and not the other? I really hope they haven’t picked up on that, it’s incredibly cruel.

If your DS is completely healthy, visit your GP about anxiety, potential OCD.

A little brutal as I have no intentions of being cruel and I worry about my other child in different ways. You’re right to say that my actions are causing him harm

I say this in the kindest way but it sounds like you have health anxiety and you don't want to pass that onto your children if you can help it. Maybe you could get some therapy to help overcome it?

Yes I think some therapy would help me. Thank you for your advice