Am i being too dramatic/overprotective

[kaynic]

my boyfriends mum gave my 9 month old fish and chips from the chip shop without consent.
i know they probably wont do much harm but for me its more the principle that my 9 month old baby shouldnt be having deep fried food especially when i gave him food for his lunch.
she also bought him snacks which are recommended for ages 12-18 months

do i have a right to potentially stop her seeing him if i dont think he is in safe hands there

Is this boyfriend the baby’s father?

How much did baby actually eat? Not much I bet. It isn't something I'd get worked up over as long as baby isn't eating it every day.

If baby can manage fish and chips then they are probably fine with baby snacks too even if it says 12-18 months.

Not ideal but it wasn't a kebab washed down with Red Bull. . If you don't trust her don't let her look after your dc.

If you want to stop her seeing the baby for this, then yes, you are being overdramatic. Just say, please don't give baby fried food in future. I would rather they didn't have it at this age.

I can confidently say - No

I don't think you're unreasonable to be upset, I know I would be, but perhaps a conversation first - i.e. "Please feed DS the food I've provided, we're avoiding deep fried and sugary foods as we feel he's still too young."

Give her a chance to correct her behaviour, as she may well have just been trying to be kind and give him a nice time. But if your consistently ignored, then maybe it's time to end unsupervised visits with MIL. After all he's your child and your responsibility, so what you say goes.

Oh, how so? Do you personally know OP?

Call it spidey senses and years on mumsnet

Yes you are being OTT.

He will have eaten a very small amount of the fish and chips and the snacks are a complete non-issue because the age recommendations are arbitrary. Many babies are weaned on whatever food the rest of the family are eating which comes with no age rating.

I have to assume there are a whole host of other reasons you don’t want her o spend time with your child, because giving him a small amount of fried food and buying the wrong snacks are very small ‘infractions’ that could be easily addressed by just asking her to avoid fried food please.