Paleness

[MsBlack]

Hi all,

looking for a bit of reassurance before I put my son through getting a blood test that isn’t necessary.
I acknowledge I have bad health anxiety that hops from thing to thing that I hyperfixate on. Atm I’m fixated on my son’s colour; paleness and dark circles. Do they look concerning? Does anyone else’s child have this? I’d say there was a pattern of it being worse when he needs food, and hungry…that’s normal right?

sorry I know I sound unhinged but I just need reassurance it’s not something sinister.

thank you.

He doesn’t look pale to me! Our DD gets terrrrible eye bags if she has had a bad sleep, feeling extra tired or has eaten poorly too tbh. Sometimes we look at her, look at eachother and are like ‘wow she looks awful, big healthy dinner & early night’. She is nearly 4.

ETA - we had to get bloods for DD last year and it was so traumatic holding her down while she cried ‘no mummy I don’t want it’ so I would definitely avoid getting bloods unless indicated. I take it you control his diet? If so, ensure he is getting plenty of nutritional balance across his meals and taking multivitamin.

He doesn’t look pale
I’m way paler and as a child doctors were always “she must be so anaemic”
um no, that’s just my colour”

Hello! Thank you for commenting. I do during the week; I coparent with his dad where he lives off chicken nuggets and pizza (no shade, I just know my son likes a lot of other food)
that’s a good shout - I hadn’t realised kids were just more susceptible to being hungry and tired and it present this way. Which now that I’ve realised seems pretty obvious!!
thank you again.

Thank you for the reassurance. He is pale but it’s definitely more noticeable when he’s tired and hungry.
ahhh parenting - never ending stress and worry 😅

I don’t think he looks pale at all and his lips are a really good colour. Some children just have dark circles, I have read they could be related to allergies, ‘allergic shiners’ but don’t know much about that. I have health anxiety too and sympathise, it’s horrible when something takes hold, it’s so hard to stop fixating on it.