Swollen belly & Pain - Stress & Assult

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We have had the most stressful 5 days and the stress is showing on my 12 year old daughter. My daughter has been bullied in school since returning from Christmas break, working off the timeline of events. In school on Monday, she was attacked in the school sports hall changing rooms by three other girls in her year group, 1 of whom was a so-called friend. Sadly, the video is circulating the area online, we have seen the video, and we are speechless and horrified.

She was knocked to the ground with the first push and they kicked and punched in the head, chest, belly and pelvic area, it's horrendous to watch. We took her straight to A&E Monday and they were amazing, they did a scan of her head, neck and chest and an ultrasound of her belly. It all came back okay, she does have two broken fingers and is bruised all over her body. She's been really hurting.

A&E suggested we book an appointment with our GP to see them for mental health support. We have an appointment by phone with them next week.

With the stress of everything she is now also constipated, went to the pharmacy yesterday, they gave us movicol, she is very bloated, so we went back this evening, and they have given us ducolax suppositories, which have made her go, but have caused her horrible pains in her belly and down her legs. She is still really blotted. She normally goes every day, sometimes twice a day. I'm thinking if the bloating doesn't go down tonight, to take her back to A&E.

She also hasn't been sleeping very well at night, wet the bed on Tuesday night and slept with me Wednesday night. After giving her the tablet, we have tried to make her relax somewhat with a lovely bubble bath and movie night. We told her we will move schools and are looking into that. It breaks my heart that she should have to be the one to move

I know there's so much going on, but I think I am just looking for suggestions, where to go, what else can we do to help her.

Thank you for any help or suggestions,
A very heartbroken Mum & Dad xx

I am so sorry for what your daughter has been through, it sounds horrendous. I don't have much advice other than to suggest you report to the police if you haven't already done so. Bumping the thread for you in the hopes that others will come along with some advice.

I’m so sorry to hear all of this. I hope your daughter starts to feel a bit better soon.

Have the bullies been permanently excluded and have the school notified the police about the assault your daughter suffered while on their premises?
Have the senior leadership of the school been in touch to offer support?

Take the video to the police and report the assault. What have the school done?
Id move schools unless they have expelled those children. But if she wants to stay then Id be doing whatever I could to make that happen.

Have you phoned the police?

Your poor daughter. I am so sorry for what you are all going through, I really am. Absolutely vile scum that did this to your daughter and I hope the police make an example of them!

A similar situation and video is circulating in my local area at the moment (could potentially be your poor daughter) it's made me sick to my stomach and fearful for my own daughter as she is due to attend this school. I am now considering moving house to a new catchment area.

No advice, sorry but you have the support of the community and if you can think of any ways we can help, please let us know. (Assuming you are the same family local to me)

Sorry, yes, we have spoken to the police on Monday, and they called to the house on Wednesday, the hospital has also contacted social services for her to be a vulnerable child; they haven't contacted us yet. We have a screen recording of the video as do the school and police. The Police felt she wasn't ready to be interviewed and have arranged it for next week, they are going to come here to the house.

From the school. The other girls have been suspended and they are investigating the whole thing from the start of the bullying, but they haven't been excluded yet/if that be the case. The school phoned to tell us about what happened and came to get her on Monday. The principle called again on Monday evening, Tuesday and Thursday to check how she was doing. We also have her number to speak directly to. The school safeguarding lead has also emailed social services, whatever that means. They have also offered their counsellor.

There's been lots of phone calls and emails flying back and forth

Your poor daughter, absolutely horrendous. I guess the emotional and mental stress is now presenting in a physical manner. I suffer anxiety and get really constipated when very stressed. I find the deep stomach pains pass with time.

@Scutterbug it's horrible, the cramps she has tonight are awful. We think we will take her back to the hospital, she has started to cry with the pain, it's only getting worse after the tablet we gave her

Take her back, who cares if it turns out to be constipation? Cannot be too careful in situations like this. It may well be constipation, I know how painful that can be, but why take the risk.

I am so sorry that your poor daughter has had this awful experience.

Oh god this has actually made me teary your poor dd I can't believe this has happened at all never mind at school.

I'd take her to the hospital as no one knows what's going on inside and early scans can miss things.

Massive hugs to you all and I hope the offenders get more than just a slap on the wrist this is absolutely horrific.

If she would feel reassured by going to A&E then do, but cramps is absolutely normal, I have to take dulcolax occasionally and get them every time. Leg pain is a common symptom of constipation in teenage girls, I've seen doctors speak about it. One treated a gymnast who couldn't weight bare, the pain in her legs was so bad. Every conceivable test & scan was done. They saw something on the ultrasound and suspected constipation, gave her laxatives and the leg pain vanished once she'd cleared out her bowels!

Thank you we are in A&E now. We have been seen by the triage they are going to get the doctor to come and give her some pain relief. Defently the right decsiion the pain has gotten a lot worse on the journy here. I think it might actually be her appendix but I dont know its just a guess.

@PoundFun I would guess so. I would hate for another family to have a week like this and go through what can be only described as hell.

Sorry I feel like I am rambling on

That's absolutely horrendous and even worse if she has to change school. Your poor daughter. I hope she is okay.

This is a horrendous read. Really sorry Op. I hope she can follow her wishes and stay in the school while the others need to find another school!

How is she doing today? I hope you are all home again recovering. Speedy recovery to your DD

Thank you all. Sorry it's been a few days since we updated. Dad here.

She had her appendix removed on Saturday morning and is now home recovering.

The police have been in touch today and invoked us they have made an arrest of "one suspect" and enquiry remain ongoing. They've canceled our interview for this forthcoming week to allow her to recover.

We are trying to deal with an unimaginable event we never thought could be true. We have ready each and every comment. Thanks for your thoughts and well wishes.

Mum & Dad x