Children sharing bedroom long term - should I be worried?

[Starlou]

I’d love to get everyone’s thoughts, I have 3 boys. A 1 year old, 6 year old and 8 year old.
I am buying a 3 bed house soon (wish I could afford a 4 bed but cannot at the moment or in the near future).
My eldest is on the spectrum and has always shared a room with his 6 year old brother, they have the normal brotherly fights but on the whole it’s ok!
when we move, I’m planning on the eldest and middle child staying in a room together and the baby having the small box room.
initially I was thinking baby and 6 year old share a room but then decided against it as baby still doesn’t sleep through the night!
I was just wondering how many of you have children who share bedrooms, how old they are, any worries I should have for the future?
id love to give them all their own bedroom and privacy it’s just a little impossible at the moment!

It depends on personality really. We had to separate ours at 5&7 as DD2 boisterousness was stressing introvert DD1.

Unfortunately you can't predict how it will turn out. But lots of children share longterm perfectly well.

Interestingly the eldest boys are chalk and cheese and sometimes
the 6yr old really winds up the 8 yr old with his hyperness!
thank you for sharing xx

My brothers shared all their lives until the elder left his home, it really is normal to share. Of course kids argue but nothing to unduly worry about. If circumstances change you can swop the bedrooms around, you can extend, you can move but for now it's fine

My boy and girl share I only have a 2bed

they are only 3 & 6months

they’ll have bunks eventually and il worry about the future in a few years won’t be a problem for ages

if we can’t ever afford a bigger place my husband and I might take the kids room and do some sort of splitting off the big main bedroom so they have separate space or something

as you have all boys I don’t see the issue with sharing

if you can’t afford a bigger house you just can’t 🤷‍♀️

Yes you are right I think I’m just over thinking it and worrying too much xx

Yes you are correct! I was thinking the same about splitting a room, it’s a good shout! Xx

It worked fine with my two dds in a large room. It probably wouldn't have worked with me and my sister, but we grew up in a fighty house, whereas my dds haven't and have got on fine. Eldest is at uni now and dd2 will be next year.

Mine shared till they left home in their 20’s step and biological they both rented separately now both flat share but have separate rooms obviously.

I had to split my DSs up, they were winding each other up, fighting constantly and my middle DS especially needs a lot of personal space. They're both Autistic and their Autism shows in very different ways and they need different things, they're better off apart. We lost our dining room as I needed to use it as a bedroom, not ideal but better than the alternative. They were in bunks, none of our bedrooms are big enough to make into two separate rooms that both fit a single bed.

It's fine. It was extremely normal for same sex siblings to share until they left home in the 80s and 90s.

I grew up like this, in the 1950s. I was one of five childrenlving in a two bedroomed house until was 13 years old. In the large bedroom there were two double beds, one for my parents and one for two of us, both girls with the baby in between the two beds in a carry cot on a stand.In the small bedroom were my toddler brother in a cot with the other sister in a small single bed.My sisters and I took turns to be in the single bed.
We moved to a larger three bedroom house once the baby grew out of the carry cot, my brother had his own bedroom and myself and my sisters shared the large room and our parents had the other room.It was only when I left home at 18 I had my own room.
This was quite normal in large families then.I remember it being not unusual to have to share a bed, never mind a room.

I’m from a big family. We all had to share at some point, as there were never enough bedrooms!

I shared with my younger sister, on and off, from the ages of 4 till about 13. It worked well because we got on, similar temperament & only 2 years apart.

At one point, we moved house (to a smaller one) and for a short stint, there were 4 of us in one room! My older brother was moving out to live with his gf, so we knew it was only for a short while, but it was crazy! My 2 brothers had one side and me & my sister had the other side. My brothers were noisy and used to play tricks us all the time, very funny looking back, but at the time, I couldn’t wait for them to move into the other room!!

I shared a room with my sister until we were late teens. Was absolutely fine, in fact quite comforting as a bad sleeper to hear your snoring sibling. No long term damage here!

My two girls share. They have the option of their own rooms but cry that they miss each other when separated. I think they like to lay in bed chatting and playing in the mornings and whisper to each other at bedtime 🥱

I would give the older child the box room, the middle child and youngest share the larger room but youngest stays in with you until their sleep is sorted.

Or you give the two older boys the master bedroom which will be bigger and split it and then you have the middle room and baby has the box room

They won’t know any different, it’s really not worth worrying about.

If possible I'd make sure each boy has their own space within the room for their toys and books. Also maybe a wall each that they can decorate, so they each feel they have their own space despite sharing.