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Baby doesn't sleep

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flyingbeet · 02/10/2024 21:44

My baby is 11 weeks old. She had had problems with her sleep since she was born but for the last month it has progressively started to get worse. I will say she sleeps okay during the night waking up every 2 hours to feed which is obviously not the greatest but at least she sleeps. During the day my whole day consists of putting her to sleep. I draw the curtains, swaddle her, white noise, she has a bouncer that she likes to rock in but most of the time she want to comfort nurse. She doesn't like me swaying her to sleep. She will just cry. She will doze off into active sleep for 5-10 minutes and then wake up again. She does this for hours until it's time for her to eat and because she's already on the breast she starts drinking. When I try and burp her or change her nappy she will scream and go red because she is mad I am not letting her sleep. There are the odd days where she will give me 15 minutes of happy awake times where I try and bathe her and do tummy time but for the most part Im not able to do anything with her and have to get her cleaned and changed. I should add that since she has a good night's rest she will be in a good mood in the morning for an hour and from then on I spend the whole day trying to get her to sleep. Is this normal? My mum can't put her to sleep and neither does my friend who also just had a baby know why my baby does this. It is really impacting my mental health

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flyingbeet · 02/10/2024 21:46

have to get her cleaned and changed while she is screaming

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JumpstartMondays · 02/10/2024 21:48

Let baby sleep when baby wants to sleep. If baby doesn't want to sleep, cuddle! Enjoy that snoozy age. If it takes longer than 20mins for baby to fall asleep then consider are they tired enough right now? Do something else for 15mins then try again.

Baby is so tiny and wants to be near you all the time. Totally normal.

Congratulations on your newborn!

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 02/10/2024 21:52

At 11 weeks it's pretty normal. Sorry.

flyingbeet · 02/10/2024 22:00

@@JumpstartMondays
Unfortunately baby doesn't want to cuddle. Just wants to suckle and try and sleep. I have had days where I tell myself if she doesn't sleep in the next 20,30 60 minutes I'll keep her up. This way she ends up not sleeping the whole day, is extremely fussy and overtired

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Button28384738 · 02/10/2024 22:06

Does sound fairly normal tbh.
You could try a dummy?
Or will she sleep if you take her out in the pram?

flyingbeet · 02/10/2024 22:08

@Button28384738 She doesn't take a dummy. I've tried several times and she also cries a lot in the car seat and pram 🥲

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flyingbeet · 02/10/2024 22:09

When does this get better?

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Girliefriendlikespuppies · 02/10/2024 22:14

My dd was like this and it was at 11 weeks I went and bought the contented little baby book.

It changed my life, dd slept and ate better and I finally felt like I knew what I was doing (a bit anyway 🙈😂)

I know routines aren't loved on mn but for me it worked perfectly.

FS90 · 02/10/2024 22:16

Can you take us through your routine for the baby and perhaps we can recommend some adjustments? As others have said though fbis is all fairly normal.

flyingbeet · 02/10/2024 22:18

@Girliefriendlikespuppies Thank you! I'll purchase that book. I'm desperate to try anything and everything 😫. I've tried using wake windows before but that didn't work either

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Elisabeth3468 · 02/10/2024 22:18

Ahh it's so hard! I remember it well. ❤️❤️❤️ you're doing a great job, baby sounds very normal. Mine would only cat nap on the boob

SouthLondonMum22 · 02/10/2024 22:19

I second the contented little baby book. Mine thrive on routine and over tiredness can make sleep so, so much worse. I also liked the baby whisperer book.

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