14 year old period

[MrsDTucker]

Hi dd started her period age 12. She's had them every month since. She's told me she hasn't had one for 2 months. She's definitely not had sex.

Is there any reason it can stop. She's lost a little weight but not much and isn't stressed / nervous.

I've told her I'd make a doctor's appointment but she doesn't want them to look at her bits.

I've said it will probably be a blood or urine test.

Thanks.

The weight loss alone could cause it! I don't think a GP would even do a blood test just for 1 missed month, especially if she is otherwise fit and well.

In my teens I had regular periods but did very occasionally miss one. I don't think your daughter needs to visit a doctor over one missed period. But if it becomes an on going issue then I'd make an appointment then. I'm not a medic but I don't think there would be any examination of 'bits'! It's worth her tracking periods using an app if she doesn't already so she can accurately report dates to doctor.

Sorry she's missed 2 in a row

Yes she has an app to track and that's how she knew

She's worried her periods have stopped forever and she won't be able to have kids.

I'm autistic and I didn't know how to answer as I know this can happen.

She hasn't lost much weight but it's the only change I can think of.

How much weight has she lost? I know you say not much, but dropping to being underweight can cause it. Did she actually need to lose weight?

Yes, I'd still go to the doctor's appointment.

I can't really tell she's lost it but she thinks she has.

She won't let me book an appointment and how can I make her go?

Is she eating properly, not skipping meals and overexercising as far as you are aware?

This was what my DD3 was doing when she was in late secondary school. She had an eating disorder and her body weight had dropped too low. This meant her periods stopped. They often do when the body reaches a level at which it can't afford to continue with them.

The school helped get her referred to mental health services, who told her that if it dropped any further then she would be taken out of school and made to rest at home with work sent to her there from school.

That was the scenario DD just didn't want and was the push that she needed to engage with the treatment.

With regard to going to appointments, getting her to go and getting treatment, I did go with my DD to almost every one and supported her, especially at the very beginning. Whenever she showed reluctance I did have to explain to her that yes, her medical treatment was essentially hers to make a decision on, but that if those decisions were deemed by the medical professionals to be bad decisions or not in her best interests then there were (are) ways and means in which they can be challenged. Again, she realised that that was another scenario she wanted to avoid.

We got there and she is now several years further down the line finishing her university degree. Not sure we'll ever be fully out of the woods, but she has regained weight, maintained it and despite some hard knockbacks along the way she seems loads better to me. Periods returned as she reached a better weight.

Drs will need to rule out pregnancy. I know you say definitely not but a 14 year old may not be truthful if that was the case.

What is her BMI and how much weight has she lost? Has she started more intensive fitness/running etc?
GP wouldnt need to see her bits! At most they might feel her stomach whilst she lies on the bed. If it continues longer, and pregnancy has been ruled out, only then would they consider a blood test to check hormone levels and potentially an ultrasound.

fwiw, anecdote:
Mine started when I was 12, then stopped for 7 or 9 months when I was 14 when I got a bit thinner (not too thin). My mom did get me "checked out" but there wasn't any problem they could fine.

I conceived 4 kids without trouble later on. Although I never ever worried about infertility, certainly not when I was a teenager. That's the weird part to me.

How are yu sure she is pg?

Isn't pregnant?

No she definitely isn't. She doesn't go out and if she had a bf she would say. She was laughing saying she's pregnant because she knows she definitely isn't. She's never had the opportunity to kiss a boy. She tells me way too much so I know she would tell me and not be nervous or embarrassed.

She's just worried she might not be able to have kids.

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What does that mean?

The first thing the GP would ask you would be the result of the pregnancy test.