Unhappy child

[FancyFlamingo]

My lg is 6 years old, since I’d say her birthday in September she has been extremely irritable and angry about everything. She was always a happy child, loved talking and having fun. But now out of nowhere she constantly shouts at me, her dad and brother. We always get “Leave me alone” “Go away” if we speak to her, it’s rare if she doesn’t give us that answer! Even if it’s just a simple “Are you ok” we get shouted at. She is also very emotional. I’ve spoken to school and I’ve spoken to her many times to ask what’s wrong or if there’s anything going on and she doesn’t say there’s anything bothering her other then she doesn’t like being asked questions all the time. I’m so sad because I don’t want her to feel this way I feel like I’ve lost my happy little girl can anyone give me any advice? Or anyone been through the same?

You're right to be concerned, as this change has happened so suddenly. Has anything changed in her daily routine? Any new adults or teachers in her life? What does school say? Is she also grumpy there?

Nothing has changed in her life, no new teachers or family. School say she’s absolutely fine! She’s with her friends she’s happy etc! So it’s so confusing.. She is also grumpy and angry around grandparents, friends of mine and other family members 😣

I don't have any experience or wisdom but I remember a friend of mine saying to another friend who's little boy (though a few years older) had undergone what she described as a personality transplant, that (assuming that you have sufficient funds to do it) there is nothing to lose by looking into some age appropriate child-centred counselling. She said, handled properly, at the worst it will show your DC that you have noticed they're not happy, that you think they are important and worth investing time in, and that talking about feelings can help. I thought that sounded quite wise. (I think it did also help her little boy in that he was able to bring up issues they didn't know he was having, in the event). Absent that I guess it's just a question of loving her through it, and giving extra love where possible as she's obviously not having the best time. Good luck 🤞

School also insisted everything was fine when my kid was miserable. It wasn’t, the discipline was haphazard and unpredictable and the classroom was toxic. This caused a lot of anxiety while at the same time being very difficult for my child to put into words because she didn’t know any better. Monitor your child’s behavior over the holidays and see if they improve. Frankly I’d pull her out for week now and see if she improves

My daughter was a bit moody at 7 (now 10) and it turns out that she was autistic and that she was getting really upset and annoyed because this boy at school kept hurting her at school and it got her really annoyed that she took it out of anyone else. I moved her to a different school and she became more calm. Maybe try asking her if it’s school and maybe set her a taster day there?

I agree with @Happyinarcon I have a child with sen, I know first hand myself and from lots of other parents of sen children that just because school say they’re fine in school really doesn’t mean they are fine in school.

I remember being like this at that age. She's definitely pushing boundaries. It might or might not be a phase that will just fizzle out. For me, it definitely fizzled out.