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Feeling down about baby girls development.

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Helpmeout124 · 21/02/2024 14:57

hello. I have 3 children, my middle child is almost 4 and has autism. The signs were there pretty early on 1-1/2. She didn't talk, gave no eye contact, walked on top toes, flapped her arms and stuff, she's developmentally at 12-18 months now at nealry 4. well my youngest is now at that same age, where I noticed with my 3 year old that something was going on, I will preface this by saying that if my youngest was to have autism too it would be fine. I'm not going to be devastated. it is what it is, they are my children and I love them dearly. But other than not speaking she's showing no other signs at the moment.

it's me, I feel like my daughter (17 months) isn't quite as far on development wise are other children her age, and I feel like it's my fault. She can't really talk, mum. And that's it. I saw a video of a baby 1.5 months older than her counting to 10 yesterday and i deleted instagram. It makes me feel so inadequate as a mother. How can he do that and my daughter says 1 word. I do flash cards with her, constantly talk to her, play with her a lot. And read to her everyday so what am I missing? I didn't use to be so sensitive but after my older daughter missing all her milestones I feel like I'm just stressing about milestones too much.

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PrincessOfPreschool · 21/02/2024 15:18

That's understandable you worry but really I'm sure she's fine. I work with 2+. They all talk at different times. One of 'my' kids was chatting away at 2-3, very advanced vocab but at nearly 4 he is really struggling with going to the toilet, uses a potty, needs reminding to go etc. Other kids potty train at 2 but use single words and no sentences till 3.5.

I wouldn't worry at all. I have lots of kids not speaking much till past 3. Sometimes it all comes on very fast if they're hearing it and absorbing. She's still so little. Just talk to her all the time, try not to anticipate what she wants too much so she has to communicate it eg. Wanting a drink. Keep talking to her in sentences. Repeat what she wants eg. She points at TV. "Do you want the TV on?" (rather than just turning it on). As she gets older, go to places where she can play with other children as that's a big motivation to speak.

ILoveSpoon · 21/02/2024 21:05

My LOs vocabulary shot up incredibly fast between 2,and 2.5yo.

Relax! You've got a lot on, be kind to yourself!

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