So DD is 3.5yo and has been toilet trained since 2.5yo pretty successfully other than a few standard accidents and a bit of a regression a couple of months after DD 2 came along. But that stopped after a few weeks.
Over the last few weeks she has been having poo accidents in her pants but would end up going for the big poo on the toilet. Over the last week maybe she’s had bigger and worse accidents in her pants. The whole time when I would try and talk to her about it she would say she didn’t want to poo because she didn’t like the smell. So I thought it was a bit of an aversion so we talked about all poos smelling and how if we go on the toilet we can wave bye bye to the smell, but if it’s in our pants the smell stays until we notice and clean it. We took her to pick a febreeze spray she uses in the bathroom too but that didn’t do much. Now she just screams that she doesn’t want to go for a poo whenever I suggest it (when she’s wiggling and doing her “poo face” when I know she’s holding it in). It’s becoming a huge thing and I’m afraid to say I’m loosing my temper sometimes too. I thought it could have been constipation as a lot of the accidents are small and could be overflow but there have been a few times she’s absolutely known what she’s done where she’s taken herself off to a corner and done a full blown one. Could this be the start of poo withholding? I’ve got a doctors appointment for her tomorrow afternoon but just wanted to get some advice on the topic please! Have I also messed up massively by getting angry a couple of times? I’ve always apologised after she’s seemed fined but I feel like I’ve now added to the aversion more! Thank you for any advice here