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Nursery illnesses every week

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Rose2092 · 19/01/2024 18:47

My little one is 10 months old and started nursery at the beginning of January. We’ve had so many illnesses and we’re only part way through the month!

Just before Christmas he had a cold / stomach bug, then conjunctivitis, temperature and chest infection, the cold and cough haven’t really gone away since Christmas and now he has tonsillitis. Bless him, I just want to make him better! It’s been a month now of disrupted sleep for him and he must be feeling so rubbish.

We are lucky that we have a very good doctors and also very lucky that my parents are on hand to help us so much.

But the mental strain is just so difficult and all consuming. I dread sending him to nursery each morning (the only option for us, we both need to work full time), I worry immensely at every illness and I question whether I actually do have ‘mum instinct’…I worry I’ll misjudge an illness of his that could be really serious even though I’m straight at the doctors should he get ill again.

I know all of this is building his immune system but I just want my happy little boy back, my baby who usually loves his milk and food and sleeping through, which all goes out the window when he’s ill. I’m finding it so difficult returning from maternity leave, trying to juggle working full time, learning my job again, and managing illnesses. Again, we’re lucky we have my parents help.

Are there any ways I can manage the anxiety around his illnesses? I find it so difficult because he just can’t tell me exactly what’s hurting at this age.

How long does it take for immunity to build up from all these nursery / winter illnesses? Please tell me it gets easier? I’m quite stressed to be honest and I really feel for him being so unwell with one virus or infection after another. I know it could be so so so much worse, I guess I’m just struggling with new mum worries still.

I thought the newborn days were hard but I’m finding this stage a lot more challenging.

OP posts:
ColleenDonaghy · 19/01/2024 19:01

It's brutal alright OP, no denying it! Can't really help re the anxiety but they really do all go through it, it's very normal. It will settle but probably not until springtime tbh.

Oldermum84 · 19/01/2024 19:11

My DS got a new illness from nursery when he started every 3 weeks for 7 months. I got most of them too. Hell.

MumChp · 19/01/2024 19:41

Old news, sorry. Most children have a lot of sick days the first years of childcare.
It does get better.
Around school age (4 yo) with ours.

joelmillersbackpack · 19/01/2024 19:47

Solidarity OP. It is hell. I also worry so much about a normal illness escalating into becoming very unwell. I am constantly on edge.

It's honestly like being a shoe in a tumble dryer, one thing after another.

DuploTrain · 19/01/2024 19:57

The first winter at nursery is really tough. It should be better by spring. The illnesses will get less frequent.

I know what you mean about anxiety around illnesses. It is really hard to judge sometimes and can be worrying.

If you haven’t got one already I highly recommend the thermometers that you point at their forehead. Means you can check temperature regularly and do it while they’re asleep without disturbing them.

Mindovermatter247 · 20/01/2024 22:55

Not just nursery…. Dd11 who’s in year 6 has been non stop Ill since end of November. Finally thought we’d shook it and bam another cough started up on Tuesday. She’s just thrown up from coughing so much, I’m hoping that’s helped her as it has in the past. We are due out tomorrow. She said she felt better after. shes never been like this when she was younger. It’s like one virus after the other.. and she’s not the only one in her class either, the bug in November took them all out like flies… several of them off at a time, including the teacher.

Redwineandcake · 20/01/2024 23:00

We're the same op! Had d&v, bronchiolitis, tonsillitis in out house recently and now we've all got a stinking cold! Makes me not want to plan anything ever because I can guarantee one of us will be ill! We barely catch up on sleep from one illness before the next illness starts! It's brutal.

Mumoftwo2022 · 21/01/2024 21:29

Same over here, since he started in September he’s had soooo many viruses. Just got over the latest one this weekend . Praying for no more x first year is the worst.

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 21/01/2024 21:30

It's like this for the next few yrs.

Better now when they can't remember it all than hinder their school yrs.

CountryGirl189 · 23/01/2024 15:26

We’re currently dealing with this over here and it’s truly hell on earth!

I’d say the current virus is the worst we’ve had though, not sure if anyone has had the same? Very phlegmy cough, runny nose, really lethargic and will only play for a few minutes before wanting cuddles, but if a funny tummy and a vomiting episode here and there, although I feel this is from the coughing up phlegm as she only sicks when she’s coughed and gagged.

this has been going on for a few days now and she barely wants any food at all, a cracker here and there and will have a few sips of juice but will down her milk at night (one before bed and one during the night) thankfully! I hate seeing her this way 😭

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