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GP won’t see 4yo for 2 weeks [Title edit by MNHQ - Please read beyond the OP before responding]

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trombolese · 12/01/2024 12:03

Hi, just need to get an opinion on what people would do in my situation.

Some background on my 4yo - severe silent reflux from birth which meant awful awful sleep and feeding. This went undiagnosed for 7 months which then led mega tonsil problems, golf ball size which then caused severe obstructive sleep apnea. Tonsils out at 2.5. Grew back 5 months later to full size, if not bigger (didn’t think possible, consultant at Evelina said she’d never seen it happen that quickly) - constantly infected, had them out again at 3.5. Never weaned properly due to feeding issues, always bad with food. Quality of life crap due to tonsil problems. Since having them out it has only very mildly improved to be honest. He has also suffered with constipation the past year due to poor diet.

Since beginning of October he has had a fever at least once a week, sometimes explained, sometimes completely unexplained. The longest he has had fever for is 8 days with no other symptoms. GP not interested and said these things happen (we have 2 other kids…it doesn’t happen). So many lots of antibiotics, a couple of long lasting chest infections and since November an ear ache that hasn’t gone and he is still suffering with today. Yesterday he spiked another fever of 39, no other symptoms but sent home from nursery. He barely eats a thing, some days he will only eat 2 squares of toast. The rest of the day he drinks like a fish, just water other than 1 x cup of milk before bed and sometimes 1 x in the morning. He’s lost about 3kg so far. He’s so so unbelievably pale, puffy eyes and big bags under his eyes too. He’s recently taken to crying a lot. A lot, a lot. Over things very trivial to the average person but these crying episodes can last up to an hour. He’s extremely irritable and sad. He seemingly can’t walk longer than about 15 minutes without complaining his legs are hurting loads (to the point where he will just crawl along the floor instead if we let him!) and more recently he is waking in the night complaining of itching. His tiredness and lethargy some days is another level.

Seeing as this is his 10th fever in as many weeks (I am keeping a diary now) I contacted the GP with a massive list of his symptoms as I am now actually really concerned. They can’t see him for 2 weeks and have told me to “contact the HV” for advice in the meantime. What advice can they possibly give?! I am really concerned he is lacking something important in his diet or god forbid, something even worse.

AIBU to call 111? Do I take him to a&e?! This just seems crazy now. He has missed so much nursery and it just breaks my heart that his QOL is so shit.

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0nceMoreUntoTheBreach · 13/01/2024 16:55

Hi OP,

We had almost exactly this with our son. He had adenoids out twice before the age of three and constant misery for years.

With us it was intolerance to wheat and dairy. He was also intolerant to every kind of food that contained supplemental vitamins except readybrek and cocopops and rice krispies.

Once we cut out the things he was intolerant too he magically became fine and all the problems vanished after precisely 10 hours, and never returned.

If that works for you, then keep doing it and then google ASD and cPTSD because that was what happened next for us.

Doteycat · 13/01/2024 16:58

OMFG
Is there any way of putting a bloody banner on this?
There is a sick child in question here.
READ THE FUCKING THREAD before you post.

Backofthenet20 · 13/01/2024 17:08

So sorry to hear this. I was wondering from the symptoms mentioned if it could be something liver related. Light poo and itching might be signs of this. Glad you trusted your instincts and have started to get some help

Charliewasfired · 13/01/2024 17:15

Hello @trombolese I see from the responses that you are in the hospital but cannot find your update.

Glad you went to A & E. Our 8th month old dd suddenly developed fevers that would come and go. She was found to have something very serious when she seen at A & E. She fully recovered.

Thinking of you and DS, please keep us updated 🩷

ORLt · 13/01/2024 17:20

trombolese · 12/01/2024 12:03

Hi, just need to get an opinion on what people would do in my situation.

Some background on my 4yo - severe silent reflux from birth which meant awful awful sleep and feeding. This went undiagnosed for 7 months which then led mega tonsil problems, golf ball size which then caused severe obstructive sleep apnea. Tonsils out at 2.5. Grew back 5 months later to full size, if not bigger (didn’t think possible, consultant at Evelina said she’d never seen it happen that quickly) - constantly infected, had them out again at 3.5. Never weaned properly due to feeding issues, always bad with food. Quality of life crap due to tonsil problems. Since having them out it has only very mildly improved to be honest. He has also suffered with constipation the past year due to poor diet.

Since beginning of October he has had a fever at least once a week, sometimes explained, sometimes completely unexplained. The longest he has had fever for is 8 days with no other symptoms. GP not interested and said these things happen (we have 2 other kids…it doesn’t happen). So many lots of antibiotics, a couple of long lasting chest infections and since November an ear ache that hasn’t gone and he is still suffering with today. Yesterday he spiked another fever of 39, no other symptoms but sent home from nursery. He barely eats a thing, some days he will only eat 2 squares of toast. The rest of the day he drinks like a fish, just water other than 1 x cup of milk before bed and sometimes 1 x in the morning. He’s lost about 3kg so far. He’s so so unbelievably pale, puffy eyes and big bags under his eyes too. He’s recently taken to crying a lot. A lot, a lot. Over things very trivial to the average person but these crying episodes can last up to an hour. He’s extremely irritable and sad. He seemingly can’t walk longer than about 15 minutes without complaining his legs are hurting loads (to the point where he will just crawl along the floor instead if we let him!) and more recently he is waking in the night complaining of itching. His tiredness and lethargy some days is another level.

Seeing as this is his 10th fever in as many weeks (I am keeping a diary now) I contacted the GP with a massive list of his symptoms as I am now actually really concerned. They can’t see him for 2 weeks and have told me to “contact the HV” for advice in the meantime. What advice can they possibly give?! I am really concerned he is lacking something important in his diet or god forbid, something even worse.

AIBU to call 111? Do I take him to a&e?! This just seems crazy now. He has missed so much nursery and it just breaks my heart that his QOL is so shit.

A&E.

IDontOftenComment · 13/01/2024 17:24

The OP has said she will reply when she can, there is no need to keep guessing at what might be wrong.

Read the full thread before replying!!

Lougle · 13/01/2024 17:25

ORLt · 13/01/2024 17:20

A&E.

Glad you were here to recommend that.

DyslexicPoster · 13/01/2024 17:26

Glad you got him seen

CanaryMary · 13/01/2024 17:28

Oh no! I hope you get some answers! I’m glad you went to a&e as few worrying symptoms you’ve mentioned here, I’m glad that they are helping and finally listening to you now

Fullofxmascbeer · 13/01/2024 17:34

Just look after your little boy and yourself. Update when you have time but don’t worry how long that takes.

saraclara · 13/01/2024 17:40

@ORLt what on earth was the point of quoting the (very long) OP? Just to add three keystrokes that are entirely irrelevant now.

We all know what the OP says. You'd have been better spending that time clicking on 'see all' to read OP 's updates before posting.

SpinningOutWaitinForYa · 13/01/2024 17:42

Thinking of you OP. I hope he gets on the mend soon.

Joolsin · 13/01/2024 17:46

Glad he's been seen, OP, those symptoms were worrying. I hope they're getting to the bottom of it all and make the poor wee man feel better soon.

Coldpillows · 13/01/2024 17:47

I hope your DS is getting the help he needs.

purplepandas · 13/01/2024 17:48

Wishing you and you DS well @trombolese .

hopeishere · 13/01/2024 17:54

Glad you've been seen and followed your instincts. Hope he's ok.

cannaecookrisotto · 13/01/2024 17:55

Thinking of you all OP ❤️

Motomum23 · 13/01/2024 18:09

Sending love hope you are OK and now you have some answers you can start the healing process

Savedpassword · 13/01/2024 18:11

Charliewasfired · 13/01/2024 17:15

Hello @trombolese I see from the responses that you are in the hospital but cannot find your update.

Glad you went to A & E. Our 8th month old dd suddenly developed fevers that would come and go. She was found to have something very serious when she seen at A & E. She fully recovered.

Thinking of you and DS, please keep us updated 🩷

Click on the ‘see all’ options at the bottom
of the OP.

femfemlicious · 13/01/2024 18:16

Doteycat · 12/01/2024 12:34

The itching would be the last straw for me. Id take him to a and e. He needs checking.
You don't itch for no reason.
How's his wee and poo? Colour wise?

I had itching and could barely walk when I had kidney failure 😩

WinterMarchesOn · 13/01/2024 18:25

We are talking about a real child here, and it’s really distasteful to see lots of people still speculating on what might ail him. Please stop, it’s horrible.

HorridHenryIsMyPal · 13/01/2024 18:25

Hope little man is feeling better soon.

Mistralli · 13/01/2024 18:25

Sorry to read that you've discovered your child is very poorly - I hope when you've had some time you can see what an excellent mum you were to follow your instincts, keep good records, and get him seen.

Thinking of you both.

Pebbles1012 · 13/01/2024 18:27

IDontOftenComment · 13/01/2024 17:24

The OP has said she will reply when she can, there is no need to keep guessing at what might be wrong.

Read the full thread before replying!!

This! Not least of which at a time when the OP is already worried beyond measure, piling on the range of potentially awful diagnoses is not helpful......at all.....especially when her DS is now under the care of professionals.

OP sending love and hope for a speedy recovery for your gorgeous little boy. Take care. X

Bulkypeepants · 13/01/2024 18:28

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