Hey ,
Just looking for advice please. As the title says. My daughter was a very quick learner -walking very early, talking very early, could sing the alphabet and make all animal noises by the age of one etc.
She has always been quite particular with people. Always put it down to shyness and health visitors said it's common with lockdown babies. Always been a mummy's girl. She gets very worked up around other children (due to start pre school next month) she prefers adults but on a one to one basis only.
She can play around other children but is more comfortable outside.
She's always spoke in third person which didn't concern me too much as when I corrected her she would say it the right way. But without the constant correction she still does it. A few people pointed it out to me that they've never heard that before and it made me a little worried. X being her name...For instance 'does X want to do a wee wee on the potty?' Or 'does X want her breakfast now?' Her tantrums started when she was around the age of 1 and I mean EXTREME ones. They are still going at at-least 1-2 a day. Not just little normal ones I literally can't calm her down for a long time.
She used to play great on her own but She has no interest in playing solo EVER anymore. She wants an adult but it has to be one to one no other adult in the room or she has a meltdown. She was a great drawer it was one of her favourite things to do and could draw amazing pictures from a young age but won't draw anymore 
she would draw different kinds of whales and faces etc amazingly by the age of 2... now she cries and asks whoever is there to do it for her. It's like all her confidence is gone.
If I speak to anyone on the phone while she's there she cries her eyes out. I have to walk out the room or go up the stairs now. If my mum or anyone else is around she will cry if we even speak to the point she won't calm down for a good hour. Every time me and her dad (my partner) speak she has a complete meltdown.
And now recently she has started to say things the wrong way round. She will cry and say ' you don't want to go to the park today' but she actually means 'I want ti go to the park today' every single thing she has started saying the wrong way round. Like tonight 'you don't want to play with the bubbles in the bath' but she was crying and meant 'I do want to play with the bubbles in the bath' I don't understand what's causing this. I love her to pieces but she is EXTREMELY hard to deal with and I end up in tears by the end of most days. The mixing up and saying things the wrong way round started about a month ago and has got worse and worse. I get this is not normal because when I'm around other pre schoolers they don't seem to act like this.
Another thing she has just started to do- if she doesn't get a response to EVERYTHING she says she cries her eyes out I mean EVERYTHING. Things we can't even reply to. I will say 'take your shoes off please darling' she will say 'ok' and if I don't respond to the 'ok' she will shout it over and over and scream her eyes out until I just say 'yes' or something to acknowledge it. But I mean it's EVERYTHING all day and night me and my partner are absolutely exhausted by it. I have tried explaining to her she doesn't need mummy and daddy to respond every single time she speaks it's only when she wants to ask a question. It's like she doesn't understand.
I have got to the point I dread going anywhere and avoid any groups or classes anymore because it's absolutely draining and exhausting .
I love her so so much but I don't know what I can do. I feel like this is getting harder and harder as time is going on and it's isolating. I won't even meet up with friends that have children of a similar age anymore because I get embarrassed by it ..I know this sounds so so terrible but when everyone's children are acting normally and running around playing but my daughter is just standing there crying every time I try and talk, it is just pointless even being anywhere. I'm so upset and don't know if this could be something she can't help or if there are ways I can help 'fix this'. I don't what I'm supposed to be doing in case she does have a problem so don't want to be doing the wrong thing. When my sisters or mum look after her they do say she's extremely sensitive too but 'maybe she's tired '. 'Maybe she's coming down with something ' and all the other excuses are just in one ear and out the other now. She's a great sleeper too.
I have a paediatrician appointment next week about something else for her- do you think they will help if I bring this up too? I will contact the HV tomorrow just in case.
I am on constant egg shells around her. I love her so so much I just want to make sure I'm doing the right thing. :(
Sorry for the long post just want to know if anyone else has ever had the same ?