Should I have tried nights with no nappies by now?

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My DD is 3 and a half, and we started potty training a year ago. She picked up poos very quickly and i think after the initial few weeks we've only had one poo accident the entire year.

Wees are another matter and we have a constant battle with getting her to go the toilet. We regularly have daytime accidents. I feel like ive tried everything. My current approach is just to tell her to take her wet clothes off and she has to go upstairs and get new clothes herself. And constant loo reminders and taking her even though she yells that she doesn't need to (then does a big wee 😑)

Anyway, because of all this, I have yet to even attempt night training. I just think why bother if she cant even get the days right? The idea was once she's mastered days id try nights, but it's going on longer than i thought it would and now im worried im taking too long to start night training?

I dont want to introduce more stress if she's not physically capable yet, but all the kids i know her age are night trained, so i dont know what to do?

Some advice would be appreciated!!

Ime Night dryness isn't trainable, it's a hormonal change that has to happen in the brain that enables them to know they need to wake up to go. 3.5 years is still young for toilet training day and night and the gp wouldn't usually be concerned about a child not being dry at night until they reached at least 8 years old. Don't stress op, she'll get there in her own time. I also have a stubborn DD (4) who "doesn't need" then will do the biggest wee seconds later 🙃

They won’t be dry at night if they’re not dry in the day. Night time dryness is hormonal. As the pp said I wouldn’t be stressing at that age about it.

The normal range for not being dry at night goes up to 6 or 7. As PP have said, it's hormonal (also can be affected by not drinking enough in the day so they don't have a good bladder capacity). It's not under conscious control so it's not trainable.

Agree, leave it until she mostly has dry nappies overnight. Mine was 4.5.

All three of my DC were potty trained during the day just after their second birthday.

DD1 took another year and some bribery to be dry at night (I think she was peeing in her nappy when she woke in the morning so was capable, she was just being lazy)
DD2 was dry at night at the same time she was dry in the day. No effort required.
DS was 5 or 6 before he was dry at night. And after that if he was poorly he sometimes wet the bed.

Edited to say, you can't train being dry at night, it happens when it happens. And I suspect from relatives the top end of the range is beyond 7. Get decent waterproof sheets and it's not a big issue though.

Don’t stress. My nearly 5 yo is in night time pants although no longer needed and we re using up the pack. Nighttime dryness just happens naturally after daytime is sorted out.

don’t worry about what other parents and kids are doing honestly, it will just make you anxious and your dd will pick up on your frustration.

Dts were in night time pull ups until about 5.5, if she's not cracked it in the day I wouldn't even think about it yet. As pp said it's hormonal and you can't train it.

Don't even think about it until she's had a dry nappy overnight for a month.

As everyone else as said, it's not something that trainable. It's also not something that operates within a 'window', you're not going to leave it too late late, miss the window and she'll be in night nappies when she's 30.