14 month not reaching milestones

[mrsl82]

My son is 14 months old beginning of October.

The health visitor has visited twice and has concerns regarding development.

Things the health visitor said are needing to be monitored are.

He hasn't waved
He doesn't clap
He doesn't point
He isn't saying three words.
He isn't hitting bricks together or has an interest in knocking blocks over.

Things he IS doing

Says Da Da
Crawling
Standing all the time loves to be stood
Loves cocomelon
Likes toys
Gives good eye contact
Responds to his name
Smiles when smiled at
Eats a varied diet (although can be challenging)
Understands language if I ask for a cuddle he rests his head on my shoulder
Responds when I say come to mamma
If he doesn't want a drink pushes it away with hands.
Plays Peak a boo by moving my hands away from my face.

I've been actively trying to encourage him to clap his hands by physically doing it for him, and saying clap your hands we sing to him all the time he loves songs

He likes lights, cogs that turn, turning pages on a book.

I'm beginning to worry that he isn't meeting these milestones. Especially since the HV said they're Red flags.

Has anyone else experienced similar as in late Development or early indicators for ASD

Thank you for reading

I'm not a professional but nothing in your post concerns me me. I have 3 children, one of them currently 14 months old.
I think the fact your son makes good eye contact and all the other social things he is doing (responding to his name, understanding words you are saying, smiling in response to smiles, saying dadada, playing games) are all very positive. None of my children were early clappers/wavers and my current baby doesn't point, but I know he is fine, he is so social and responsive in other ways.
I think often you just 'know' if something isn't right. If he seems fine to you then he probably is.
Each of my children has hit milestones in a different order. My second son didn't say a single word till he was nearly 2, I worried myself sick and he is absolutely fine.

Sounds like he's communicating well and is showing good hand-eye coordination/dexterity. I wouldn't be worried personally.

My son didn't utter a word until closer to 2. He hasn't shut up since then. He's three now and decided he needed to ask me at 5:30am where the moon and stars go in the day time 😂

Thank you for your comments, it's really appreciated.

I forgot to mention from being 9 months old he has been fascinated with one hand. Looks at it intently and kind of flips it back and forth looking at both sides. He doesn't do it with both hands and doesn't twirl etc.

He bounces a lot but does it on command when I say are you dancing as well as spontaneously he just seems to love bouncing with his legs.

When he sees food or cocomelon or something he likes his arms and legs kick and move frantically but again think this is when he is purely excited xx

You've listed so many really positive lovely things about your son, and he seems really engaging and social. If he does have some autistic traits, the chances are it's mild and it's very early to tell. Do you have ASD in the family?
I do have a friend who's son has ASD and he did display some of the behaviours you've mentioned. He was fascinated with lights and spinning wheels on things, and he tended to flap his arms when excited. He didn't have good eye contact though and this was very noticeable to his mum from a young age.

One thing I will say, my friends little boy is now 7 and he is a total delight, honestly one of the loveliest little boys I know. He is so caring and gentle. He is so knowledgeable and loves chatting to me and is passionate about the things he loves. He is amazing at reading and numbers and has made a group of like minded pals, he will do something amazing one day I just know it.
There is such a huge range of normal and neurodiversity is understood and supported better than ever before. Enjoy your little boy, I'm sure he will be just fine.

Yes my brothers son is Autistic he is five, non verbal and in a world of his own. I think that's what scares me, I've watched my nephew regress and it's been so sad. He is a beautiful boy and communicates in his own way and has just started school.

I know if he was we would do anything to support him, his sister and him are our world. For me it's the unknown I struggle with.

I do think if he is he will be milder, a few of my friends are ASD and have strengths and knowledge etc I wish I had. X

I have an almost 14 month old (and 2 older dc) too. Your initial list of not doings would worry me in isolation BUT the second list almost cancels that out for me. He is responding to his name and understanding simple instructions. I wouldn’t worry too much, easier said than done I know!