Toilet training my 2 year old gone wrong!

[Naz110]

Hi all, just wanted some advice please! So I started toilet training my toddler and things were going great, shes been doing number 2 in the toilet for 3 months nows. However she's now started doing it in the nappy again, and she won't tell me she needs toilet. She used to tell me and I used to take her to the toilet but now she will just do it in the nappy.. I feel like I've failed as a mum and just feel so sad about it... anyone else been through this. Why is she doing this:(

I think the problem is the nappy.

She is likely not uncomfortable doing things in the nappy so it probably doesn't seem worth the effort to her.

As much as I hate to say it potty training only really stuck for us once we announced the nappies were gone and they had the discomfort of wet pants.

If she's been potty trained for three months why is she wearing a nappy?!

They wear a nappy OR you potty train them. Can't have it both ways.

If you feel like your child being toilet trained is a mark of success/failure as a parent then you have very skewed boundaries! Hopefully that comes across how I intended it.

Your job is to provide the support and encouragement and it's their job to decide how to support their own bodily functions.

Having said that my nearly 4 year old still has to change his pants regularly, short of rugby tackling him and lifting him to the toilet and holding him down, there's not much else I can do. It doesn't make me a bad parent when he wets himself. That's just what he does.

Maybe we are the daft ones - perhaps adult nappies will be the next big thing to save the hassle?!

I agree with previous posters. When she was toilet trained you should have got rid of the nappy!

Yup. Nappies went out the window once DS was toilet trained.

Is the nappy used for overnight, and she's using it before it's taken off in the morning? If not, then she shouldn't be in nappies, it's mixed messages.

You can get washable training pants, but if she was both clean and dry for three months then she shouldn't need them.

Regression does happen, however. But the issue here is clearly the nappy.